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 %PRIMARY SECONDARY IRRELEVANT QUESTIONS CONSIDERED 040522
%UNIQUE CREATIVE INTIMATE PERSONAL SEXUAL RELATIONS 040522
%FRIENDSHIPS MARRIAGES BONDINGS COMMUNITIES SPIRITS 040522
 %EXCLUSIVE INCLUSIVE OPEN AUTHENTICITY HEAL SHALOM 040522
%CHARACTERISTICS VIRTUES GOODNESS DEVILS FLAWS FALL 040522
  %TREE KNOWLEDGE GARDEN EDEN FORBIDDEN FORGIVENESS 040522

      It  is important to distinguish between  appropriate
PRIMARY-QUESTIONS  about human RELATIONSHIPS & appropriate
SECONDARY-QUESTIONS about human RELATIONSHIPS.  SECONDARY-
QUESTIONS about human RELATIONSHIPS are  NOT appropriately
asked ---   before  asking  and  agreeing upon appropriate
responses  to  appropriate PRIMARY-QUESTIONS  about  human
relationships.

      Appropriate PRIMARY-QUESTIONS about any unique human
RELATIONSHIP  focus  upon the HEALTHY characteristics of A

UNIQUE-HEALTHY-RELATIONSHIP;  not  upon  which traditional
formalities, rituals, scripts,  roles and collusions   are
observed/affirmed  by  the  participants within,  and  the
supporters of, A UNIQUE-HEALTHY-RELATIONSHIP.

      Appropriate     PRIMARY-QUESTIONS    about     human
RELATIONSHIPS  focus upon the HEALTHY characteristics of A
UNIQUE-HEALTHY-RELATIONSHIP;   e.g.,  characteristics such
as:

      Balance,
       Mutuality,
        Honesty,
         Authenticity,
          Complementations,
           Responsiveness,
            Dialogue,
             Listening,
              Attentiveness,
               Cooperation,
                Collaboration,
                 Sensitivity,
                  Affirmations,
                   Gentleness,
                    Generosity,
                     Kindness,
                      Civility,
                       Hospitality,
                        Forgiveness,
                         Reconciliation,
                          Adaptability,
                           Flexibility,
                            Peacemaking,
                             Personal-Integrities,
                              Communal-Integrities,
                               Etc.

      Preoccupations    with   traditional    formalities,
rituals, scripts, roles and collusions are NOT-APPROPRIATE
in the  presence  of many positive  demonstrations  of the
above  CHARACTERISTICS  of  HEALTHY-RELATIONSHIPS.    Many
positive  demonstrations  of the above CHARACTERISTICS  of
HEALTHY-RELATIONSHIPS    make   most   considerations   of
SECONDARY-QUESTIONS irrelevant and/or NOT-APPROPRIATE.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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