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 %CONTENTIOUS HAPPY CHEERFUL GLAD PLEASED THANK JOY 040520
 %DELIGHTED FULFILLED GRATIFIED SATISFIED GRACE GOD 040520
 %HOLD POSSESSION POSSESSIVE EXTERNAL SOURCE PLEASE 040520
 %CONFORMITY CONTROL DOMINATE LORD KING QUEEN FORMS 040520
%IDEALISM PERFECTION SEXUAL BOND RELATIONSHIP GOODS 040520
%HEAVEN HELL PURGATORY HOLY SACRED MAGICAL SOLUTION 040520

      People who are  not  content (happy, cheerful, glad,
pleased,  delighted, fulfilled,  gratified,  OR satisfied)
with what they have ----- often want TO-HOLD-ON-TO-MORE of
what  they  have,  or want MORE-OF what the  believe  that
other people have,  or MORE OF SOME OTHER POSSESSION WHICH
THEY  VIEW  AS A LIKELY EXTERNAL  SOURCE  OF:   happiness,
cheer,   gladness,   pleasure,    delight,    fulfillment,
gratification or satisfaction --- if they could only HOLD-
ON-TO-IT (French tenure --- to hold).  Such people are not
meaningfully  held  by   any  truly  significant  intimate
relationships  ---   and  seek  compensatory:    security,
meaning, and invulnerability by holding-on-to-things which
can be unilaterally possessed/held-on-to.

      Possessive  people,  domineering-people,  addictive-
people,  and collusive-people and their like ---  are ill-
at-ease, dis-eased, in regards to: friendships,  intimate-
relationships and sexual  relationships ---  which  entail
reflexive/personal:    holding,   touching,   stimulation,
mutuality,  cooperation, collaboration,  balance,  health,
shalom,  etc.

      They  seek  to solve their  "problems"   (which  are
really    inter-personal-dilemmas)    through   unilateral
efforts,   actions,  commandments,  etc.  which entail NO-
MEANINGFUL:    reflexive/personal:    holding,   touching,
stimulation,    mutuality,   cooperation,   collaboration,
balance, health, shalom, etc. --- WHICH ENTAIL MEANINGFUL-
VULNERABILITY.

      What     they    need/want    entails    MEANINGFUL-
VULNERABILITY.  They feel/think that what they want can be
achieved  through TOTAL-INVULNERABILITY and  TECHNOCRATIC-
MEANS for unilaterally "solving"  what  they believe to be
purely technical-problems.   They cannot find  contentment
through  "holding-on-to"  their unilateral feelings and/or
thinking patterns.

      They  do  not  recognize,  understand  or  know  the
essential-foundations-for-personal-and-communal integrity.
They   need  to  seek  to  recognize,   understand,    and
acknowledge   the  essential-foundations-for-personal-and-
communal-integrities;  e.g.: civility, hospitality, grace,
cooperation,   love,   trust, collaboration,   generosity,
thankfulness, appreciation, respect,  reverence, humility,
peacemaking,  forgiveness,  acceptance,  giving,  sharing,
honesty,  balance,  mutuality,  etc.   They cannot do what
they need  to  do  ---  ---  ---  ---   so  long  as  they
compulsively   HOLD-ON-TO  their  UNILATERAL  assumptions,
feelings and/or thinking patterns as  sure  means  to  the
achievement   of  INVULNERABILITY  as  the  one  and  only
ABSOLUTELY ESSENTIAL risk-management-tool.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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