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%INDEPENDENT ASPECTS MUTLI-DIMENSIONAL RELATIONSHIP 040404
%LINEAR VECTORS SPACES BASES RATIONAL AFFECTIVE SIN 040404
%EMOTIONAL OBJECTIVE REFLEXIVE SUBJECTIVE OPEN EVIL 040404
%HONEST AUTHENTIC RESPONSIVE NUMBER PARTICIPATE GOD 040404
%FAMILY COMMUNITY FRIENDS INTIMATE SEXUALITY LEVELS 040404
%PRIVACY PUBLICITY MUTUALITY RECIPROCITY RECONCILED 040404

      The following  can  be independent/separate  aspects
of relationships:

      1.  Cognitive, rational, provable, etc.

      2.  Affective, emotional,  etc.

      3.  Objective, reflexive, subjective, etc.

      4.  Open, honest, authentic, responsive, etc.

      5.  Number of participants: one, two, three, etc.

      6.  Level of reflexive iteration.

      7.  Level of privacy/publicity.

      8.  Level of mutuality-reciprocity.

      9.  Desires, needs, wants, hopes, aspirations, etc.

     10.  Level of formality/spontaneity.

     11.  Level of authority/rebellion.

     12.  Level of balance/integrity/integration.

      The  above  have been referred to  as  "independent"
aspects    of   relationships   because   any    different
relationship  may  be different as regards an  aspect  ---
apart from how  the relationship is  different  from other
relationships as regards all of the other aspects.

      When   there   are  many  independent   aspects   of
relationships  (as  well  as independent  aspects  of  the
persons participating in relationships) it is possible for
there  to  be  countless different kinds of  personal  and
communal integrities which are not being controlled by any
one central person/authority.   When one central person or
authority  is  in control ---  corruption is bound  to  be
present  because  of  such a concentration  of  power  and
authority.    Be-aware and beware in the presence of  such
a concentration of power!

      Under  the  conditions  just   suggested  above  ---
participants   in  relationships  characterized  by   many
different aspects and many different participants ---

        are not likely to have enough time to be faithful
        participants within their relationships ---

          and also have enough time to describe to non-
          participants more than a small fraction of
          "what"  has been involved in their primary
          integrative/healthy relationships and how they
          have   been  involved  within   their   primary
          relationships ---

            and non-participants are not likely to have
            enough time and/or discernment to comprehend
            much of what might be described to them ---

              even if  they  did want to try to comprehend
              much of what is described to them.

                Non-participants will not be in a good
                position to make good judgments about the
                relationships   wherein   they   are   not
                participants;  and need to be cautious  in
                trying to make any  judgments about other
                people's    relationships   under    those
                conditions.

                  The consequences are usually tragic when
                  non-participants  make judgments  about
                  relationships  about  which  they   know
                  little  ---  and base  their  judgments
                  upon:    rumor,    gossip,    prejudice,
                  assumptions, pretentiousness, fears,
                  imaginations, etc.

                                    Shalom.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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