This is http://www.essayz.com/b0401051.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %ESSENTIAL FOUNDATIONS PERSONAL COMMUNAL INTEGRITY 040105 %NOT HELPFUL AUGMENT ALIENATION ESTRANGEMENT EVILS 040105 %ANGER REBBELLION DISHONESTY IGNORANCE UNDERSTANDS 040105 %DOMINATION CONTROL ATTACK AGAINST POOR VULNERABLE 040105 %COOPERATE OBEDIENCE PURITY GENEROSITY AGREED GODS 040105 %HONESTY CONFESSION DOCTRINE RITUALS RELIGIONS SEX 040105 Each of the following behaviors is NOT helpful and in fact usually augments: alienation, estrangement, resentment, anger, rebellion, dishonesty, ignorance, misunderstandings, etc. The following behaviors are usually used by a relatively few dominant/powerful/wealthy people against many others who are submissive/vulnerable/poor people. 1. Unilateral calls/demands for "cooperation". 2. Unilateral calls/demands for "obedience". 3. Unilateral calls/demands for "purity". 4. Unilateral calls/demands for "generosity". 5. Unilateral calls/demands for "agreement". 6. Unilateral calls/demands for "honesty". 7. Unilateral calls/demands for "confessions". 8. Unilateral calls/demands for "conformity". 9. Unilateral calls/demands for "service". 10. Unilateral calls/demands for "humility". 11. Unilateral calls/demands for "support". 12. Unilateral calls/demands for "civility". 13. Unilateral calls/demands for "hospitality". Domineering people's unilateral actions promote alienation, estrangement, resentment, anger, rebellion, dishonesty, ignorance, misunderstandings, etc. Unilateral demands that vulnerable/poor people demonstrate the virtues of: "cooperation", "obedience", "purity", "generosity", "agreement", "honesty", "confessions", "conformity", "service", "humility", "support", "civility", "hospitality", etc. --- are demands which merit no true: reverence, respect, honor, or support. It IS-NOT-HELPFUL to submissively demonstrate the above "virtues" in response to UNILATERAL-DEMANDS by DOMINEERING-PEOPLE. Neither is it helpful to demonstrate ALIENATIVE: dishonesty, deception, personal-rejections, confusion, ignorance, mis-understandings, etc. It should be made clear that domineering people are NOT ALWAYS CLEAR, OVERT AND/OR EXPLICIT in how they "issue" their unilateral demands and/or threats. Domineering people are often unclear, covert and tacit in how they "issue" their unilateral demands and/or threats. They create oppressive atmospheres of subtle and tacit unilateral demands; and then maintain that is they who are the "good-people" who are committed to good-forms of laws-and-orders, and to the enforcement-thereof for the "good-of-the-order". It IS-HELPFUL to clarify that all people need help to promote and facilitate: honesty, authenticity, clarity, reconciliation, forgiveness, understanding, patience, etc. --- IN TRULY-COOPERATIVE WAYS. It IS-HELPFUL to work COOPERATIVELY to create and maintain small HEALTHY-COMMUNAL-SANCTUARIES wherein poor and vulnerable people are helped to exchange free gifts of the freedom to be SAFELY-VULNERABLE within open, honest and intimate relationships/dialogues which are not dominated by any unilateral actions. All people need to be free to be open and honest about their own experiences, understandings, discernments, ideals, values, hopes, fears, weaknesses, failures and aspirations. Both communal and personal integrities falter when some people are not thus free. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================