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 %EVIL RELATIONSHIPS BETWEEN RESCURER VICTIM ADDICT 040102
%PERCEPTIONS OFFER GIFTS SHARE PERCEPTIONS THEORIES 040102
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      The  relationships between "rescuer"  and  "rescued-
victim"    depend  upon  their  perceptions  of  what  the 
"rescuer"   has to offer the potentially "rescued-victim".  
Their    perceptions/theories   about   their   respective 
"circumstances"   are not likely to be identical.    Their 
relationships depend upon the natures and extents of their 
differences  in perceptions/theories;  and upon how  well-
aware they are  of their differences in perceptions and/or 
theories. 

      All  of the above is inherently  complicated.    The 
complications   are   increased,    however, whenever  the 
"rescuer" and/or potentially "rescued-victim"  are victims 
of: 
      
      1.  Alienation/incoherence within themselves. 
      
      2.  Alienation/incoherence in their relationships. 
      
      3.  Ignorance, confusion, prejudice, etc.
      
      4.  Provincialism, narrowness, imbalance, etc.
      
      5.  Exclusivity, arrogance, self-righteousness, etc.

      6.  Imbalance as regards power, wealth, health, etc.
      
      7.  Imbalance as regards self-esteem, honors, etc. 
      
      8.  Fanaticism as regards to their own ideals. 

      Often  a  perverse relationship evolves  between  an 
arrogant,  self-righteous and overly self-confident would-
be-rescuer   and   a   person  who  is   a   victim    of: 
dysfunctional-humility, mis-guided-meekness, poverty, etc. 
In  such  a situation a TRUE-RESCUE is almost  impossible, 
because  it is unlikely that there will be honesty in  the 
rescue-relationship.   The ostensible-rescuer is likely to 
augment  their  arrogance,  self-righteousness  and  self-
confidence through the pretentious-rescue.   The presumed-
victims  is  likely  to  experience  the  augmentation  of 
dysfunctional-humility, mis-guided-meekness, poverty, etc. 
      
      In  the  above kind of dilemma each person  entering 
into  a  rescue  relationship needs to  seek  honestly  to 
discern   what  they  can bring to the evolving  relation-
ship  ---     which   the  other person  needs  to  honor,  
respect  and  understand.    To the  extent   that  either 
participant fails to  seek  to  discern what good they can 
honestly  bring to their evolving  relationship  ---    to 
that  extent they are not likely to contribute to   higher 
levels of personal and communal integrity. 

      Often people bring different "theories"  in terms of 
which  they attempt to understand and deal with ostensible 
human needs: 
      
      1.  To be rescued,
      
      2.  To be a rescuer,
      
      3.  To ask for help,
      
      4.  To offer help,
      
      5.  To be independent,
      
      6.  To be inter-dependent,
      
      7.  To be cooperative,
      
      8.  To be hospitable,
      
      9.  To accept help, hospitality, gifts, etc.
      
     10.  To avoid addictive dependencies, etc. 

     11.  To be dominant, coercive, in-control, etc.
      
     12.  To compete, win, be-superior, etc.
      
     13.  To live within a sanctuary community.
      
     14.  To explore outside of sanctuary communities.
      
     15.  To describe what one has experienced & be heard.

     16.  To be acknowledged with one's own integrity. 

     17.  To be well integrated into a healthy community. 
        
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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