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  %ESSENTIAL KEY IMPROVEMENT DYSFUNCTIONAL RELATION 031008
%LIE TRUTH BEHAVIORS TRUE LOVERS MANAGE OPEN HONEST 031008
%DEMONSTRATE ROLE MODEL INCARNATIONS KNOWLEDGE EVIL 031008
 %HEALTHY PERSONAL COMMUNAL INTEGRITY HONOR RESPECT 031008
 %SYMPATHY SUPPORT REVERENCE CONTENTIOUS COERCE SIN 031008
%CONFLICT RESOLUTION PEACEMAKER RECONCILE HEAL GOOD 031008

     An  essential key to the improvement of dysfunctional
human relationships lies in the behaviors of  True  Lovers
who  manage  to openly and honestly DEMONSTRATE  what they
TRULY KNOW about healthy personal and communal integrities
and  integrations  ---  and thereby gain  honor,  respect,
sympathy and support.

     As regards  to the improvement of dysfunctional human
relationships: TRUE DEMONSTRATIONS are convincing; whereas
CONTENTIOUS  ARGUMENTATION  is  NOT convincing.    In  the
absence of gracious existential demonstrations of Love ---
all pretentious theories are as dry grass in the  presence
of a fire storm.

     Contentiousness    about    dysfunctional    THEORIES
regarding  the  natures of good-people and evil-people ---
does  not contribute  positively  to  the  improvement  of
actual    dysfunctional   human   relationships.      Such
contentiousness  strongly  suggests that the supporters of
the THEORIES know very little of practical value regarding
any   actual  demonstrations  of  the value which might be
found  in   their  HOPE   that   their THEORIES    acually
describe complementry   TRUTHS  about  real  occasions  of
people  becoming  better  integrated  in  spite  of  their
dysfunctional  and/or  inhumane  personal   relationships.
Their   THEORIES   are      based     upon      misleading
conceptions     of     the  nature/essence  of  evil   ---
whereby they  attribute evil  to  isolated    individuals,
rather  than  to   DISINTEGRATIVE-RELATIONSHIPS.  Evil  is
absent   in   the  absence  of relationships.    Love   is
absent   in   the  absence   of relationships.   Hope   is
absent   in  the  absence   of relationships.   Faith   is
absent  in  the  absence  of relationships.  Faith,   Hope
and Love abide only in the presence of relationships.

     People  who expect and anticipate that they will find
or  create  hope  and  fulfillment  through:   domination,
controls,    coercion,    arrogance,   self-righteousness,
perfection,  conformity,  formalities,  and the copying of
ideal-forms  ---  regularly    demonstrate    the   tragic
conseaquences of such futile expectations,   anticipations
and  hopes.    They   believe  that if only they will  try
harder   and make greater sacrifices  of   personal    and
communal    integrities    ---      their    expectations,
anticipations   and  hopes will eventually  be  fulfilled.
They  demonstrate the futility   of what they stand   for.
They   do   not  stand  for  personal     and     communal
integration;     and    so   they  disintegrate  in tragic
ways.   They  tolerate  the  sacrifice  of  many  personal
and  communal  integrities  in  futile efforts  to find or
create    hope    and  fulfillment  through:   domination,
controls,   coercion,   arrogance,     self-righteousness,
perfection,  conformity, formalities,   and the conforming
to their own MUTUALLY-EXCLUSIVE Ideal-Forms.

     Through  their demonstrations of Love and Truth  many
True-Lovers     challenge    in   intolerable    ways  (to
domineering people)  the disinegrative  ways   of   people
who  expect  and  anticipate  that  they  will   find   or
create   hope   and   fulfillment  through:    domination,
controls,     coercion,   arrogance,   self-righteousness,
perfection,  conformity,   formalities,   and the  copying
of  ideal-forms.    All True-Lovers  are  thus intolerable
(to domineering people) and  so are  excommunicated by the
"superior-ones"   who  believe that they  fully  know  the
Absolute Truth.
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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