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%DOMINEERING PEOPLE SUCCEED COLLUSION DECEPTION GOD 031006
%DIVORCE AUTHORITY PERSONAL EXPERIENCES VICTIMS SIN 031006
%SELF OTHER CONTROL DISHONEST ASSERTIVE COERCIVE IT 031006
%CAPRICIOUS CONTENTIOUS REVERENCE RESPECT HONOR SEX 031006
  %TRUST SUPPORT INSENSITIVE DIFFERENCES COMPLEMENT 031006
 %TRUTH HONEST OPEN DIALOGUE FRIEND INTIMATE SECURE 031006

     Domineering   people  "succeed"   in  playing   their
collusive games  of  mutual self  deception  through their
divorce  of  "authority"  from the actual  experiences  of
their victims; including themselves as "victims".

     Domineering   people  "succeed"   by  getting   their
"victims"    (including  themselves)  to accept  and honor
particular people   who  are:   unpredictable   dishonest,
assertive, coercive, demanding, arrogant,  self-righteous,
arbitrary,   prejudiced,  capricious,  contentious  AND/OR
domineering  ---   as  reliable  authorities   who   merit
human:   reverence, respect, honor, trust AND/OR support.

     Domineering   people  "succeed"   by  getting   their
"victims"  (including themselves) to be insensitive to the
real   differences   between   the   following contrasting
realities which we encounter in our own lives:

 1.  Honesty          vs    Deception/Addiction

 2.  Accuracy         vs    Confusion

 3.  Descriptions     vs    Prescritions/Proscriptions

 4.  Authenticity     vs    Pretentiousness

 5.  Creativity       vs    Conformity

 6.  Humility         vs    Arrogance

 7.  Civility         vs    Self-righteousness

 8.  Hospitality      vs    Blind-loyalty

 9.  Love             vs    Blind-obedience

10.  Hope             vs    Blind-certainty

11.  True-leadership  vs    Coercive-domination

12.  Integrity        vs    Confusion

13.  Security         vs    Invulnerability

14.  Intimacy         vs    Enslavement

15.  Friendship       vs    Entrapment

16.  Interdependence  vs    Codependence

17.  Truth            vs    Conventionality

18.  Rights           vs    Arbitrary-rites

19.  Learning/growth  vs    Prejudice

20.  Loyalty          vs    Capriciousness

21.  Honor            vs    Stubbornness

     Victims of  domination who cannot tell themselves  or
each  other what differences they themselves  see  between
the above contrasting realities of  life ---  are not in a
position to  be true to themselves or to each other.    If
they cannot  be honest with themselves or each  other  ---
they  cannot  become, or continue to  be, well  integrated
people within well integrated communities.    Such victims
have few grounds for hope,  respect or integrity ---   and
are  willing  to  sacrifice  what few  grounds  for  hope,
respect  or   interity   they   may   have  --- in  angry/
confused  rebellion against whomever they perceive  to  be
responsible for their hopeless conditions.

     Domineering  people  "succeed"   in   playing   their
collusive  games  of  mutual self  deception through their
divorce  of  "authority"  from the actual  experiences  of
their victims; including themselves as "victims".

     Domineering   people   "succeed"   by  getting  their
"victims"  (including  themselves)  to  accept  particular
people  who  are:  unpredictable,  dishonest,   assertive,
coercive, demanding, arrogant,  self-righteous, arbitrary,
prejudiced, capricious, contentious AND/OR domineering ---
as   reliable   authorities  who presumably merit   human:
reverence, respect, honor, trust AND/OR support.

     Domineering   people   "succeed"   by  getting  their
"victims" (including themselves)  to be insensitive to the
tragic differences between the above contrasting realities
encountered in our lives, and so become unable to tell the
differences to themselves or each other. 

     Because  of  the perverse "logic"  of the  process of
domination,  domineering  people  cannot help but  be  the
victims  of  their own "successes"  in  being domineering.
They become trapped in their own collusive games of mutual
self   deception,    addictions,    codependencies,    and
concentrations of the dishonest/domineering Powers That Be
in  opposition  to  the best aspects of realities that are
pointed  to above on  the  left;    in  comparison to  the
worst  aspects of the realities that are pointed to on the
right.   We  cannot   win  a contest over   who  will   be
dominant   ---  without being  the loser  in  the  contest
to overcome the universally  disintegrative   effects   of
all  forms   of domination. Beware! 

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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