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%HEALTHY COMPLEMENTARY PEOPLE TRUE LOVERS BEHAVIORS+030926
%WORDS DEEDS AFFIRMATIONS DEMONSTRATIONS INTENTIONS+030926
%MOTIVATIONS COMPLEMENT EACH OTHER DIFFERENT PEOPLE+030926
  %AVOID EXCLUSIVE DENIGRATIONS IDEALS VALUES GOALS+030926
%MUTUAL BALANCE ENJOYMENT PLEASURES INTIMACIES SINS+030926
%ADDICTION CODEPENDENT COLLUSIONS POWER CONCENTRATE 030926
                                                          
     Healthy  complementary people  seek through  each  of
     their verbal and behavioral affirmations ---         
                                                          
      to demonstrate their own intent ---                 
                                                          
       to complement each other's affirmations ---        
                                                          
        of  their diverse values,  ideals,   principles  &
        goals.                                            
                                                          
     Each  healthy  person  seeks to make  clear  to  each
     different other person ---                           
                                                          
      that  they themselves seek to avoid making exclusive
      affirmations   which    denigrate   other   people's
      different but healthy affirmations ---              
                                                          
       of  complementary ideals,  values,  principles  and
       goals.                                             
                                                          
     At  the  same  time  that  each  healthy  person   is
     affirming  one  of  their  own mutually complementary
     values, ideals, principles and/or goals ---          
                                                          
      they are seeking to help all other persons to become
      aware  of  how their own affirmations of  their  own
      favored ideals, values, principles and goals ---    
                                                          
       can  helpfully  be  seen as being complementary  to
       those  of  other  people  who  are  seen  as  being
       "different."                                       
                                                          
     Healthy people seek to make their integrative intents
     and motivations clear, transparent and acceptable to-
     and by "different" people.                           
                                                          
     Healthy  people  are true lovers ---                 
                                                          
      who help each other to avoid falling into the       
      patterns of thoughts and behaviors ---              
                                                          
       which are commonly seen in: addictions,            
       codependencies, collusions, power concentrations,  
       arrogations, unilateral isolations and pretentious-
       excommunications.                                  
                                                          
     True lovers  do  not  seek to hide or  obscure  their
     true intentions and/or motivations.                  
                                                          
     True lovers do not try to achieve invulnerability ---
                                                          
      at the expense of other "different" people  becoming
      more:    vulnerable,   sick,   thirsty,   dis eased,
      diseased,  hungry, powerless, hopeless,  frustrated,
      angry, rebellious, exclusive and/or terrorized.     
                                                          
     True  lovers help each other person create and  enjoy
     communal sanctuaries ---                             
                                                          
      within which many different people affirm           
      many complementary values,  ideals, principles and  
      goals ---                                           
                                                          
       by exchanging gifts of the freedom to know true-   
       security in the freedom to be safely vulnerable ---
                                                          
        with many different people ---                    
                                                          
         within webs of intimate relationships ---        
                                                          
          that are open, honest, authentic, and mutually  
          complementary.                                  
                                                          
     True lovers work cooperatively upon improving their  
     mutually satisfying relationships ---                
                                                          
      NOT upon "improving" all "defective" and "different"
      individuals in isolation.                           
                                                          
     True lovers know that the pleasures of heaven and    
     salvation are found in balanced relationships of     
     mutual cooperation ---                               
                                                          
      NOT through unilateral acts of mutual-              
      excommunication and isolation of individuals who are
      already alienated from many powerful people.        
                                                          
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     True lovers look  at familiar geometric tile patterns
and discern  the many ways in which the whole pattern  can
be viewed as being  composed of  alternative  distinctive-
key elements.                                             
                                                          
     True lovers do  not see any  one key element  as  the
exclusive key element which is THE KEY to seeing the TILE-
PATTERN CORRECTLY.                                        
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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