This is http://www.essayz.com/b0309251.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %THREE TERROR ROLES PLAYED ASSIGNED INDIVIDUALS SEX+030925 %INTIMATE INVOLVEMENT FRIENDSHIPS RELATIONSHIPS GOD+030925 %WARS MILITARY DOMINATION SYSTEM CODEPENDENT LOVERS+030925 %BALANCED MODERATORS TRUE THOU SUBSERVIENT SERVANTS+030925 %OSCILLATE HEALTHY RECONCILIATION PEACEMAKERS DEVIL+030925 %NUCLEAR CHAIN REACTION EXPONENTIAL EXTREMIST GOODS 030925 Each of us is usually prone to play one of three different roles when we become involved in intimate relationships with other persons: 1. Dominate the relationships. 2. Balance/Moderate the relationships. 3. Be subservient/enslaved within the relationships. It is difficult for us to play any other role, or to oscillate between two or more of the above three different roles. We usually gravitate to playing only one of the three roles. As a result: Most of our HEALTHY human relationships entail people who work cooperatively to play balanced and moderated roles; for then there are only moderate and/or balanced risks that any of us will go to the extreme of either trying to dominate the relationships; or of being dangerously submissive/enslaved. This is exceedingly important/helpful --- because: Whenever we become domineering, coercive and/or violent: the others who are involved --- (directly, indirectly or as spectators) --- are tempted to also become --- either DOMINEERING or SUBSERVIENT --- in efforts to maximize --- their individual gains --- at the expense of --- the integrities of all of us involved --- and at the expense of the integrity --- of our relationships as a coherent whole. - - - - - - - - - The above two chain reactions of mutually supportive dominations and codependent submissiveness --- may tragically feed the other chain reaction --- as in an atomic/nuclear bomb's chain reaction's explosion! - - - - - - - - - People who are well informed about how atomic/nuclear bombs explode through fast chain reactions --- may well understand the profound and devastating implications of what is pointed to in the previous statements! - - - - - - - - - Because of the above dynamic way in which our in- humane relationships may progress --- it is exceedingly important to help each other and all young people --- to learn how best to play balanced and moderating roles --- in all of our personal relationships --- within ourselves and within our communal inter relationships. These considerations are especially important within: close friendships, intimate relationships, sexual relationships, addictive relationships, codependent relationships, power concentration relationships, and collusive relationships. In the absence of open and honest discussions --- regarding these considerations --- domineering and submissive people --- seduce healthy people & each other -- into disintegrative relationships --- as we independently try to advance --- our own gain --- at each other's expense --- with disintegrations caused all around! - - - - - - - - - It is all truly tragic, self blinding and mutually- blinding! (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================