This is http://www.essayz.com/b0309133.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %SEXUAL LOVERS DIFFERENT NEIGHBOR CHILDREN GOD TRUE+030913 %PRESENCE PLEASURES PAINS DISEASE SHALOM HEALTHY+030913 %OWNERSHIP CONTROL DOMINEERING DOMINATION SYSTEM+030913 %CALLED VOCATION PEACEMAKER EMBARRASSED THREATENED+030913 %THREATEN FEARFUL FRIGHTEN GUILT SHAME TENSE TIGHT+030913 %GREEDY DEFENSIVE INSECURE UNSAFELY VULNERABLE GODS 030913 We cannot love each other as new neighbors, children of God and/or as true lovers --- so long as --- whenever we find ourselves in the presence of sexual pleasures --- (our own sexual pleasures, or those of others) we ALWAYS feel: embarrassed, threatened, fearful, frightened, guilted, shamed, up tight, greedy, defensive, insecure and/or UN safely vulnerable. We are called as peace makers to help each other transcend our patterns of ALWAYS feeling embarrassed, threatened, fearful, frightened, guilted, shamed, up- tight, greedy, defensive, insecure and /or UN safely- vulnerable in the presence of sexual pleasures. Much of our conflict, violence and coercive work is related to our failures to to transcend our patterns of ALWAYS feeling embarrassed, threatened, fearful, frightened, guilted, shamed, up tight, greedy, defensive, insecure and /or UN safely vulnerable in the presence of sexual pleasures. - - - - - - - Such transcendence is not simple or easy. It is complicated and difficult; and requires the transcendence of the simplistic: rules, regulations, prescriptions, proscriptions, laws, commandments, etc. of domineering, simplistic and intrusive people who are arrogant, self righteous, self centered, narcissistic, and/or indifferent to the essential foundations of both personal and communal integrities. - - - - - - - Such transcendence entails high levels of: honesty, openness, sharing, civility, hospitality, inclusivity, authenticity, grace and love --- which are not demonstrated by: domineering, simplistic and intrusive people who are: arrogant, self righteous, self centered, narcissistic, and/or indifferent to the essential foundations of both personal and communal integrities. True lovers who demonstrate such transcendence can understand, sympathize, and help neighbors who cannot yet understand or abide such transcendence with equanimity. Tragically, the latter people usually cannot understand, sympathize with or help neighbors who can already understand or abide such transcendence. - - - - - - - Progress is dealing with dysfunctional relationships between people --- will entail making progress by true lovers helping dysfunctional people --- who are imprisoned in dysfunctional relationships --- so we may all discern the ways in which --- dysfunctional patterns of: assumptions, attitudes, thinking, reasoning, belief, convictions, ideals, ideas, idealism, values, principles, etc. --- are perversely/tragically inter connected --- in ways which "seem" to make sense --- but which mislead all people who feel that they make sense; and others who respect whose who are thus misled. - - - - - - - Such progress will only rarely be facilitated by: technocrats, addicts, codependent supporters, terrorists, extremists, arrogant people, self righteous people, greedy people, militarists, judgementalists, perfection- ists, etc. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================