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 %COOPERATIVE RISK MANAGEMENT SUCCESSFUL UNILATERAL+030906
  %CONTROLLERS DOMINATION SYSTEM LOYALISTS TRAITORS+030906
   %TRUE LOVERS DOMINEERING ARROGANT SELF RIGHTEOUS+030906
%ALIENATION EXCOMMUNICATIONS ROYAL REGAL ISOLATIONS+030906
%SWEET SOUR FRUITS DISINTEGRATION ATTACKS WARS SINS+030906
  %COMMANDMENTS CONTROL LAWS RULES SCRIPTURES TABOO 030906
                                                          
     True Lovers     and    Domineering People     cherish
contrasting images of what behaviors are signs of personal
and communal integrities.    The contrasting signs have to
do  with  contrasting   styles  of  risk management; i.e.,
COOPERATIVE or UNILATERAL.                                
                                                          
     True Lovers look for signs that others whom they want
to trust,  rely on,  and be with as peace makers ---   are
committed  to  COOPERATIVE  styles   of   RISK MANAGEMENT;
rather   than  to  unilateral/isolated  styles  of   risk-
management.                                               
                                                          
     Domineering People  look  for signs that others, whom
they want to trust, rely on,  and  command as members of a
winning  army  ---   are deeply  committed  to  UNILATERAL
actions  - as members of a  loyal/conformist team  working
under   a  centralized  authority/command center  ---   to
unilaterally control  all  forms  of risk so as to achieve
security through invulnerability  as  the  key  to   RISK-
MANAGEMENT.                                               
                                                          
     Domineering People  look upon True Lovers as offering
many  signs  that  they,  the  True Lovers,   are  totally
unreliable,   not  trustworthy,  and are traitors  to  the
goals, aspirations,  and value system of the  Domineering-
People.  Only fools risk  their lives  trusting people who
are   willing  to  cooperate  with  "strangers"   who  are
"different",  "aliens"   and willing  to take uncontrolled
and  foolish  risks ---  to develop un tested,    new  and
different kinds of cooperative relationships --- which are
viewed as essential to honest peacemaking.     We  cannot,
and  must not,  trust "strangers",  and  "aliens"  who are
"different"!                                              
                                                          
     True Lovers  recognize  that the logic  and  behavior
patterns  of Domineering People lead them and others  into
patterns of relationships which are dominated by:         
                                                          
     1.  Alienation, estrangements, excommunications;     
      2.  Prejudice, ignorance, confusion;                
       3.  Judgments, condemnations, punishments,         
        4.  Coercion, violence, revenge;                  
         5.  Contentiousness, tensions, contentions;      
          6.  Misunderstandings, misinterpretations;      
           7.  Addictions, collusions, failures, lies,    
            8.  Destruction and disintegration.           
                                                          
     True Lovers look  for  signs from each other --- of a
willingness   and  commitment   to   let go of  the tragic
thought  and  behavior patterns of Domineering People  ---
because  those patterns    so   systematically   lead   to
alienation,    destruction  and   disintegration.      The
Domineering People's patterns of  thought and  behavior do
not lead to the sweet fruits  which are envisioned, hoped-
for and "promised" by Domineering People to themselves and
to each other servant of "The Domination System"  of  "The
Powers That  Be"  --- in trying to be totally  in control.
Dominators  refuse to let go of attempting to  be  totally
in control of:  things,   people,   thoughts,   attitudes,
feelings,  desires, hopes, aspirations, and communications
in all  relationships.  True lovers  know that COOPERATIVE
RISK MANAGEMENT    is   far  more   successful   than   is
UNILATERAL RISK MANAGEMENT.                               
                                                          
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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