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    %GREATEST PROOF DOMINANCE FULLY CONTROL PASSION 030803
 %EMOTIONS DESIRES PLEASURES PROVE CERTAINTY OTHERS 030803
   %TRULY DIPLOMATIC AGREEABLE COOPERATIVE CIVILITY 030803
   %HOSPITALITY SYMPATHETIC EMPATHETIC HELPFUL KIND 030803
   %POWER CONCENTRATION FORMALIZED CORRUPTION DEVIL 030803
  %ESTRANGEMENT ALIENATION SEPARATION PURIFICATIONS 030803

     The  greatest  proof of dominance is to be "fully  in
control" during moments when other people are moved by the
most  extreme  forms of passion ---   emotions,   desires,
pleasures, etc.     Thus the most dominant person wants to
prove  that she or he can always be "fully in control"  of
their own, and "fully in control"  of all  other people's:
passions, emotions, desires, pleasures, etc.

     When  we  are  being  truly:   diplomatic, agreeable,
cooperative, civil,  hospitable, sympathetic,  empathetic,
balanced,  etc. --- we are NOT being "fully in control" of
any-body or any-thing.  During such moments  of  civility,
hospitality,   mutuality,  and creativity ---  we are  NOT
demonstrating superior forms of dominance and/or  control.
During such moments we are NOT demonstrating faith in,  or
loyalty to, "The Domination System".

     Many  dominant  people believe in and  envy  God  ---
"known"  as the most:  perfect, omniscient,  omni-present,
eternal,  un-changing, dominant and powerful being.   They
believe/act  as if God exists within time  and   space  as
they  do.  Such people's conceptions of God are their  own
tragic creations  which  lead  them  to  be among the most
destructive   and  unlikable  people  whom  we  encounter.
One of our greatest challenges  is  to avoid responding to
such  domineering people in domineering  ways  which  echo
their destructive and  irritating  ways.    To attempt  to
dominate/control  such   domineering  people  ---   is  to
surrender  to  their  tragic  patterns  of:   assumptions,
attitudes, thoughts,  values, ideals,  and principles.  Be
aware in honest ways;  and beware  of  such  dishonest and
domineering   people!    Dishonesty  is one of their  most
destructive tools; often used in  trying  to  be fully "in
control".

     Highly formalized  systems and organizations seem  to
be more vulnerable to domination by domineering people ---
than are informal cooperative groups of people.    This is
true of all kinds of systems and organizations: religious,
political,  economic,  scholarly,  scientific,  spiritual,
military,  mathematical, poetic, musical,  artistic,  etc.
Formalized systems of doctrines, rituals, teachings, life-
styles, etc.  ---  seem not to have the power to transcend
the tragic patterns pointed to above.

     The  healthy  people  who  do  transcend  the  tragic
patterns  pointed  to above ---  do so in ways  which  are
informal  and not under  the  control   of   any  special:
techniques, technologies, technocrats or groups of people;
large  or small.    We  need  to  learn  from  such  well-
integrated people's ways of being true  to  themselves and
each  other --- within their special ways of participating
informally in healthy  relationships  with each other, and
with yet others around them.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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