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%BETTER SUPERIOR LEARN DIFFERENT TEACH RELATIONSHIP 030528
  %CHARACTER TEMPERAMENT APPROACH BELIEF CONVICTION 030528
  %FEARS TRAGIC COMBINATIONS LIMITED NARROW VISIONS 030528
  %CONTENTIOUS VIOLENT COERCIVE ABSENCE TRUE LOVERS 030528
 %THREAT CHALLENGE MERITS INTEGRITY SUBMIT CODEPEND 030528
%ANGER RESENTMENT SPITE REVENGE CONTROL EMOTION SIN 030528

     So  long  as we keep believing that we  are  "better"
than other people, so long we will be unable to learn from
other  people  ---  what they might otherwise be  able  to
teach us. 

     How  particular people within groups  interact/relate
with  each other ---  depends much upon their  individual:
characteristics,   temperaments,   approaches,    beliefs,
convictions,  fears,  etc.   Some combinations work  well.
Other  combinations  lead  to  tragedies  due  to  limited
narrow, and exclusive visions.  Contexts are important.  A
few   generalizations  can  point  to  probabilities   and
possibilities:

     1.  Contentious,  violent,  coercive  and domineering
people rarely work well with each other in the absence  of
true lovers and diplomats.

     2.  Contentious,  violent,  coercive  and domineering
people  often feel threatened by true lovers and diplomats
who   naturally   challenge   the   merits/integrity    of
contentiousness, violence, coercion and dominations.

     3.  Contentious,  violent,  coercive  and domineering
people    often  team   up   with   submissive/codependent
people  ---  in love/hate relationships which are perverse
and unstable; likely to disintegrate in destructive ways.

     4.  Cooperative/gentle reconcilers/healers often work
well  with  each other;  and sometimes can work well  with
"different" people who are not like them.

     5.  Contentious,  violent,   coercive and domineering
people  often  elicit responses from each other which  are
opposite to what they intended and expected;  because they
respond  to  each  other's  behaviors in  ways  which  are
dominated  by anger,  resentment,  spite and  revenge  ---
without  much  knowledge or sympathetic  understanding  of
each other's perspectives and patterns of reasoning.  They
believe  that they can control each other's responses  ---
and  refuse  to  allow each other  to  control  their  own
responses!

     6.  Contentious,  violent,  coercive  and domineering
people  COOPERATE  IN PERVERSE WAYS which  undermine  each
other's  intentions,  plans and integrities ---  to  prove
that  others cannot control them.   They blind each  other
and cannot see what they are doing to each other;  and are
doing  to  themselves  collectively.   They  are  just  as
determined to avoid being controlled by others --- as they
are  determined to be in-control-of-others.   They end  up
augmenting   each  other's  destructive  inclinations  and
behaviors  ---  resulting in each other's disintegrations.
IT IS A PERVERSE WAY OF COOPERATING!

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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