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  %CONTENTIOUS TOGETHERNESS DETERMINED INDIVIDUALLY 030514
%INVULNERABLE SECURITY APPROPRIATE WISE RISKS CAUSE 030514
%LOVER GETTING-TO-KNOW-YOU WELL ENOUGH DISCERN FALL 030514
%WHOM WHAT TRUST IDEAS IDEALS VALUE PRINCIPLES GODS 030514
%SETTINGS CIRCUMSTANCES SITUATION DEFENSE MECHANISM 030514
%PRIMARY INTEGRITY SEXUAL KNOWLEDGE GOOD DEVIL SINS 030514

     So  long  as we are contentiously-together  in  being
determined  to-be-always-individually-invulnerable ---  we
cannot  recognize true opportunities to take  appropriate-
risks to advance-the-causes-of-Love.

     Under contentious-circumstances we cannot easily get-
to-know-each-other well-enough TO-DISCERN-RELIABLY:

     1.  Whom  we can (or cannot)  trust ---   while being
wisely-prudent-in-Love.

     2.  Within  which  settings and circumstances we  can
(or cannot) wisely-and-prudently ---  let-go-of particular
kinds of defense-mechanisms for  protecting-primary-forms-
of-integrity in Love.

     3.  What-forms-of-integrity we can (or cannot) wisely
and prudently trust-in-Love.

     4.  What   forms   of:    knowledge,    truths    and
relationships ---  are most reliably worthy of: reverence,
trust, respect, honor, support and affirmation;  and which
are not.

     5.  How,   when and where in our lives ---   to  take
prudent-incremental-risks  ---  which are most  likely  to
advance-the-cause-of-Love ---  and how,  when and where to
graciously-hold-back  in-loving-ways ---  which will  most
likely advance-the-cause-of-Love.

     6.  How, when, and where to share of our-selves,  our
-insights and our-wealth --- to advance-the-cause-of-Love;
and  when  to  wait  for  a  more  opportune-occasion  for
sharing.

     7.  How,   when  and  where to help  build-sanctuary-
communities   within  which  to  facilitate  and  promote:
reconciliation,   openness,  honesty and dialogue ---  and
when  to  hold-back-and-wait for more  opportune-occasions
for building-such-santuary-communities.

     8.  How,   when,  and where to respond to domineering
people ---  in ways  which  will Advance-the-cause-of-Love
---  and when to hold-back in ways which will Advance-the-
cause-of-Love.

     9.  How  to be wisely and prudently suspicious of our
own  assumptions,  motives,   paradigms and friends  ---to
thereby Advance-the-cause-of-Love.

    10.  How  to  AVOID falling into the traps of:   self-
righteousness,   arrogance,  pride,   pretentiousness  and
hubris --- thereby advancing-the-cause-of-Love.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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