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 %DOMINEERING PEOPLE'S JUDGMENTS CONDEMNATIONS EVIL 030505
%VICTIMIZATION INTENDED PUBLIC PRIVATE TARGET AWARE 030505
%HONOR RESPECT SUPPORT REVERENCE OCCASION CAUSE SIN 030505
%DISINTEGRATION UNDERSTAND SUBVERT GRACIOUS INSIGHT 030505
%POWERFUL INFLUENTIAL POMPOUS SELF RIGHTEOUS WISDOM 030505
%SWAGGER STAGGER STUMBLE FALL LISTEN CRITICS LABELS 030505

     The judgments and condemnations of domineering people
often  reflect more upon those domineering people who  are
responsible   for   them  ---   than they   reflect   upon
their intended victims.

     Domineering  people  often want their judgments   and
condemnations  to  be  publicly  known  ---    so  as   to
victimize  their intended target people.   Such  knowledge
gives  recipients  of the knowledge ---  solid ground  for
becoming   aware  of  how and why they  should  judge  the
domineering people's behaviors as unfit for honor, respect
and  support  ---    because  of  how  the  judgments  and
condemnations   occasion  alienation,    estrangement  and
disintegration.     Those who know the effects and affects
are  free to use that knowledge to understand and  subvert
the  alienative  behavior  ---  by gently  and  graciously
sharing their knowledge and insights with other people  in
private.     Personal communications which are  shared  in
private   can often be more powerful and  influential  ---
than  can  arrogant,   self-righteous and  pompous  public
communications.

     Domineering  people who are self-righteous,  arrogant
and  pompous ---  often swagger,   stagger and stumble ---
before  they  fall.     They are unbalanced and  unstable.
Their  friends   cannot  truly rely on them ---    because
they   are alienated from people who are balanced,    well
informed  and wise.      Domineering people rarely  listen
attentively  to their most profound critics, and so cannot
learn much  from profound critics.

     People  who  have stopped learning  from  their  most
profound  critics become more and more alienated from  all
people  who are watching them with  prudent  understanding
and  wisdom.    Such alienation helps no one ---  and  all
people  of  good will need to work to understand and  heal
such  tragic alienation.    Labeling such people as beings
who  are  evil,  will do nobody and good.    Only  through
gracious  efforts to promote reconciliation,  healing  and
integration ---  can  the amount of evil-relationships  be
mitigated by true lovers   ---   in  spite  of domineering
people's   worst  mistakes.     Domineering  leaders   and
bullies  do  not  reduce the amount of evil in the  world;
they augment the amount of evil ---  which  is to be found
primarily within dysfunctional relationships.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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