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%ENGENDERING EVIL-RELATIONSHIPS INDIVIDUALLY LOVERS+030310
 %COLLECTIVELY COMMUNALLY COERCIVELY COVET SECURITY+030310
%INVULNERABILITY SELF OTHERS EXPENSE LESS TAKEN SIN+030310
%GOODNESS MERCY GRACE SHALOM HEALTH HEALING DISEASE+030310
  %DOMINATION SYSTEM POWERS THAT BE CONTROL WEALTHY+030310
 %RESPECT HONOR CIVILITY REVERENCE TOLERANCE DIFFER 030310

     EVIL-RELATIONSHIPS  are engendered whenever we do any
of  the following ---  individually,  collectively,  or in
various combinations:

     Coercively-covet security-through-invulnerability for
ourselves ---  at the expense of making others become more
vulnerable and less secure.

     Coercively-covet  wealth-and-comfort-and-health  for-
ourselves  ---   at  the expense of  depriving  others  of
wealth-comfort-and-health.

     Coercively-covet our-being-respected-and-honored  ---
at  the expense of  others-being-respected-and-honored-as-
themselves  ---  in ways which are different from our  own
preferred ways.

     Coercively-covet our being dominant and/or in control
---   at  the  expense  of others not  being  able  to  be
influential  in building healthy communities for us all to
enjoy together.

     Coercively-covet   health-and-integrity-for-ourselves
---   at  the  expense of others NOT being able  to  enjoy
health-and-integrity   as   different   individuals    and
communities ---  that are complementary to our own  selves
and communities.

     Coercively-covet integrated-healthy-relationships for
ourselves  ---  at the expense of other people  NOT  being
able to enjoy well-integrated-healthy-relationships  which
are open, honest and authentic.

     Coercively-covet  other people's affirmations of  our
own  preferred ways ---  at the expense of other different
people's  preferred ways NOT receiving  any  affirmations,
respect, honor or reverent acceptance-and/or-tolerance.

     Coercively-covet other people's acceptance of
      our collusive-games-of-mutual-self-deception;
       as if they were healthy and/or normal rituals ---
        at the expense of healthy and/or normal
         relationships between/among other people who are
          healthy members of well-integrated-and-honest-
           sanctuary-communities -- wherein other people's
            healing, growth and integration are enjoyed as
             the normal aspects of living together with
              different people who are routinely
               accepted-into-dialogue just-as-they-are.

     Coercively-covet intimacy on-our-own-terms --- at the
expense of others whom we use-and-abuse as objects-of-our-
coercive-affections  --- through  our  attempts   to   get
intimacy-for-ourselves on-our-terms.

     It  is not enough to be "right"  in what  we  recite,
believe and do.

     To enjoy health-and-integrity
      within secure-healthy-communities ---
       we must each one focus upon our own
        understanding, transcending, and subverting ---
         our own patterns of: coercively-coveting ---
          what we cannot get, own or control ---
           in the absence of our own sharing with others
            in ways which are civil, gracious, generous,
             balanced, mutual and truly reverent-in-Love.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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