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 %SHARED REALITIES PERCEPTIONS REFLEXIVE REFLECTION 030228
   %COMBINATIONS PERMUTATIONS COMPLEXITY SIMPLISTIC 030228
   %JACK JILL FALL LOVE PROFESSED PRACTICES CONFESS 030228
    %COUPLES LOVERS OPEN MARRIAGE TOGETHER INTIMACY 030228
 %FRIENDSHIP GROUPS PRAYER CELLS SHARING VULNERABLE 030228

     We each as individuals have our own (and our  shared)
realities and perceptions of ourselves,  of each other and
of all our realities, relationships, pretentions, etc. ---
in various combinations and permutations ---  with various
amounts of clarity, emphasis, openness, and articulations.
Complexity increases rapidly with the number of people and
levels  of reflexive consideration  which  we  attend  to.
There  are  many faces of our  realities  as  individuals,
and as bonded pairs/groups:

     Jack has his own PROFESSED ideals, values, etc.
      There are Jack's PRACTICES related to the above.
       There are Jack's PERCEPTIONS of all of the above.
        There are Jack's REPRESENTATIONS of the above.
         There are things Jack HAS-SAID about the above.

     Jill has her own PROFESSED ideals, values, etc.
      There are Jill's PRACTICES related to the above.
       There are Jill's PERCEPTIONS of all of the above.
        There are Jill's REPRESENTATIONS of the above.
         There are things Jill HAS-SAID about the above.

     Jack and Jill are often together.

     What is said above about Jack and Jill  INDIVIDUALLY
      may be said about Jack-and-Jill AS-A-COUPLE; in
       ways which are INTER-TWINED with them as separate
        persons as described above.

     Even without the addition of any more persons and/or
      couples; there are additional levels of complexity
       in that individually Jack and Jill have their own
        individual perspectives of their relationship;
         and of the ideals, values, etc. which they as
          a couple profess, practice, perceive,
           represent, talk about, etc.

     Even without the addition of any more persons and/or
      couples; there are additional levels of complexity
       in  that together as a couple Jack-Jill have  their
        own corporate perspectives of themselves as
         separate bodies, egos, psyches, ideals,
          values, etc.

     With the addition of any more persons the levels of
      complexity  rise  as  one might  try  to  consider:
       mothers, fathers, brothers, sisters, friends,
        courters, lovers, competitors, teachers,
         employers, police, controllers, churches,
          bullies, dictators, "The Domination System",
           etc.

     Things  get  very  complicated  when  the  following
realities  play  significant roles in all  of  the  above
relationships:

     PRETENTIONS,           ILLUSIONS,
      DISTORTIONS,           DELUSIONS,
       DISHONESTY,            PARANOIA,
        SECRECY,               FEARS,
         COLLUSIONS,            ANXIETIES,
          ADDICTIONS,            MANIPULATIONS,
           DISEASES,              ANGER,
            INJURIES,              REVENGE,
             DOMINATION,            SCORE-KEEPING,
              SUBMISSIVENESS,         PUNISHMENTS . . .

     Who can sort out and understand the totality of   the
permutations and combinations;  for themselves and/or  for
others  ---    in  ways which promote  both  personal  and
communal integrity for all?

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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