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 %FOUNDATIONS FALSE SELF ESTEEM ARROGANCE RIGHTEOUS+021121
 %DISINTEGRATIVE ESSENTIAL BALANCE SANCTUARY DEVILS+021121
 %EXCHANGE GIFTS FREEDOM SAFELY VULNERABLE INTIMATE+021121
   %PERSONAL COMMUNAL INTEGRITY HEALTHY DIFFERENCES+021121
 %MOTIVATIONS EXPECTATIONS RELATIONSHIPS LOVERS SIN 021121
                                                          
     Arrogance  and self-righteousness are disintegrative-
foundations for false-self-esteem.                        
                                                          
     An  integrative-foundation  for  true-self-esteem  is
experienced while participating  in  balanced  ways within
sanctuary communities which freely exchange gifts  of  the
freedom   to  be  safely  vulnerable  in  truly   intimate
relationships.                                            
                                                          
     To build healthy/integrative communities ---  we need
to be aware  of and work in terms of  the above difference
between  disintegrative  and integrative  foundations  for
self-esteem.     We  need  to recognize what kind of self-
esteem each person is working with;  and the  consequences
of  the  motivations  which flow for each  kind  of  self-
esteem.                                                   
                                                          
     To  facilitate  a change in the kind  of  self-esteem
that a  person  is working  with  ---   we need to work to
include   currently dysfunctional people  within sanctuary
communities  wherein  people   exchange   gifts   of   the
freedom   to  be  safely vulnerable  within truly intimate
relationships.    That is the   way  to  help   them   let
go   of:    arrogance,   hostility,    self-righteousness,
controls,  domination,  threats,  punishments,   legalism,
judgementalism  etc.    We cannot force  people to let  go
of     technocratic    ways    ---    by     demonstrating
technocratic  ways  in our efforts to make them let go  of
technocratic ways.                                        
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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