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  %LETTING GO DEFENSIVE DOMINATION CONSTRAINTS LAWS+021117
  %INVULNERABILITY SECURITY SANCTUARIES INTEGRITIES+021117
%SOLVING SIMULTANEOUS EQUATIONS INTEGRATIONS LOVER1+021117
  %CONTROLLERS SYSTEM FACILITATE ENCOURAGE PERSONAL+021117
  %COMMUNAL GENEROUS SHARE GIVE GIFTS RELATIONSHIPS+021117
  %FRIENDSHIPS COOPERATION HONESTY BALANCE CIVILITY+021117
%SEXUAL INTIMACIES MUTUALITY BALANCE SECRECY FALLEN 021117
                                                          
     True lovers let go of defensive moves and/or attempts
to  control/dominate ---  in the interest of  facilitating
and  encouraging  integrations,  personal integrities  and
communal integrities.                                     
                                                          
     True lovers are willing to take risks and be generous
in   working  to  promote  and  facilitate   integrations,
personal integrities and communal integrities.            
                                                          
     True lovers  do not try to steal: intimacies,   love,
security,    friendships,   invulnerability  or  favorable
relationships;   rather  they seek to cooperate  with  all
kinds  of  people  to  promote  and  facilitate:  honesty,
balance, civility, gentleness, mutuality and integrity ---
within intimacies,  loving,  and growing  friendships  and
mutually favorable/balanced relationships.                
                                                          
     True  lovers  do  not  lift  any  one    commandment,
mandate, rule, regulation or law --- to the level of being
their  ultimate  concern or God.   True lovers  seek  with
others   to   cooperate   in  showing  due   respect   and
consideration for a  wide  range of reasonable constraints
upon  evil  behaviors  which  promote  and/or  facilitate:
dishonesty, secrecy, coercion, violence,  contentiousness,
greed,   egocentricity,  and narcissistic points of  view.
Evil  pertains  to  relationships  of  alienation  and  to
whatever  behaviors  promote and facilitates relationships
of alienation.                                            
                                                          
     Physicists   work  to  describe/clarify  how  natural
processes  progress (develop/evolve) ---   by writing down
in mathematical  equations  the  laws  of conservation  of
conserved  quantities  ---     equations   which  describe
natural   processes   which humans cannot change.     Then
they  work  SIMULTANEOUSLY with all   or   the    relevant
equations  which   describe   the "constraints"  which are
naturally  present  in the real processes which  they  are
considering ---   to gain insights into what may,  or will
most   likely happen;  and  so   they  gain  insights into
what   changes   can   helpfully  be made  through   human
choice  and  actions  ---     to    facilitate   desirable
outcomes.                                                 
                                                          
                                                          
     It is not enough to be honest for an hour,  then kind
for  an hour,  then generous for an hour,  etc.     It  is
essential  to  be  honest  while being  kind  while  being
generous,   while being etc.     Real virtues  are  to  be
honored simultaneously  ---   even   if  not  demonstrated
simultaneously.    We cannot truly promote and  facilitate
both personal and communal integrities ---   so long as we
chose    to   honor/demonstrate  virtues  only when it  is
convenient  and/or   advantageous   to  us  to  do  so  in
egocentric  ways.  The latter is simplistic and not worthy
of our honor,  respect and support.                       
                                                          
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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