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%DISCERN DIFFERENCE BETWEEN HEALTHY HONEST INTIMACY+020920
%UNHEALTHY IMPRUDENT TRAITOR UNFAITHFUL DOMINEERING+020920
  %LOYAL SUPPORTER DOMINATION SYSTEM RISKY OPENNESS+020920
 %COURTSHIP FALLING LOVERS FOOLS SINNERS IMMORALITY+020920
%SAFELY VULNERABLE SANCTUARY FREEDOM LIBERATION GOD+020920
%CONFORMITY SALVATION WORKS FAITH RITUAL REDEMPTION 020920
                                                          
     Domineering  people are often unable to  discern  the
difference  between  healthy  honesty/intimacy  and    un-
healthy  "honesty/intimacy".     The  difference  is  much
easier  for healthy/integrative people to discern.  Why?  
                                                          
     Domineering  people  who are faithful  supporters  of
"The Domination System" are not permitted to take the risk
of  being honest or intimate ---  because being honest  or
intimate  entails  being vulnerable to  other  domineering
people.     You cannot maintain dominance/control when you
are  vulnerable.   Faithful supporters of "The  Domination
System" must never be vulnerable, honest or intimate;  and
must not be tempted to be vulnerable,  honest or intimate.
Thus  they  must not be tempted to consider carefully  the
shades  of gray between healthy honesty/intimacy  and  un-
healthy  "honesty/intimacy". To discern that  difference  
would  suggest  that some forms  of  honesty/intimacy  are
o.k.;   while for faithful supporters of  "The  Domination
System"   all  forms of honesty/intimacy must  be  totally
forbidden; unthinkable.                                   
                                                          
     The  above  considerations  suggest why  it  is  that
faithful    supporters   of   "The   Domination    System"
systematically  fail  to  help young  people  discern  the
difference between premature/imprudent honesty/intimacy in
a romantic relationship; and timely/prudent honesty and/or
intimacy  in a romantic relationship.   Domineering people
cannot  remain  faithful to "The Domination  System"   and
tolerate  courses in school about how to grow into healthy
intimacy,   honesty,   and  sexual  relationships.    Such
tolerance  is a terrible sign of a lack of loyalty-to  and
faith-in "The Domination System".     Anyone who fails  to
show  intolerance  for  such tolerance must  be  punished,
excommunicated,   etc.   Beware of them.   At minimum shun
them!                                                     
                                                          
     Consider  how  terrible  it would be  to  help  young
authentic  people  who are prone to  become  romantically,
honestly, intimately, and/or sexually involved with others
like  them  ---   to be able to  discern  the  differences
between healthy/honest intimacy/sexuality on the one hand;
and  the seductive ways of domineering supporters of  "The
Domination System"   ---   ways used to  take advantage of
people's points of weakness and  vulnerability --- through
dishonesty, deception and pretentiousness.   To help young
people  in  that  honest  way  would  constitute  a  total
repudiation of the great and powerful "Domination System".
Such  a traitorous act which would have to be punished  in
the most sever way imaginable!    Such honest help is  un-
imaginable!  Shameful!   People who act so shamefully must
be denigrated and destroyed.                              
                                                          
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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