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  %DOMINEERING DIFFICULTY ACCEPT REJECT HEALTHY SEX+020910
%INTIMATE RELATIONSHIPS DIFFERENT PEOPLE CONTROLLER+020910
 %ENVY PLEASURES FEAR HONESTY AUTHENTICITY BOUNDARY+020910
 %INSECURE VULNERABILITY DEFENSIVE TERRORISM SAFELY 020910
                                                          
     Domineering  people  often have difficulty  accepting
the  healthy  intimate/sexual relationships  of  different
people --- because domineering people often:              
                                                          
1.  Feel the need to be "in control."                     
                                                          
2.  Are embarrassed  and  fearful when  they  are  NOT "in
control".                                                 
                                                          
3.  Secretly envy other people's pleasures.               
                                                          
4.  Fear honesty and authenticity which may expose them.  
                                                          
5.  Blur boundaries between themselves and other souls.   
                                                          
6.  Feel  insecure  in  the presence  of  secure different
people  who  are NOT vulnerable as victims of  domineering
people.                                                   
                                                          
7.  Fear the works of Love which transcend controls.      
                                                          
For  at  least the above reasons ---   domineering  people
CANNOT with integrity:                                    
                                                          
1.  Be supportive  of  different people  who  are becoming
involved  in  HEALTHY  intimate/sexual  relationships  ---
regardless  of their diverse religious,  political  and/or
other beliefs and rituals.                                
                                                          
2.  Articulate   or   understand-and-make-use-of   HEALTHY
guidelines  which  will help "different"  people  who  are
becoming involved in HEALTHY intimate/sexual relationships
---     which  transcend honest  differences  as  regards:
religious,  political and/or other beliefs and integrative
rituals.                                                  
                                                          
3.  Pass HEALTHY,   INTEGRATIVE and HELPFUL judgments upon
intimate/sexual   relationships  which  are  NOT  healthy,
integrative, honest, gracious and/or civil.               
                                                          
4.  Devise ways  in which to make HEALTHY use  of coercion
and/or  violence  to prevent misguided people  from  doing
damage  to themselves and/or each other  within  premature
and/or disintegrative patterns of intimacy and sexuality. 
                                                          
5.  Distinguish between  superior and  inferior  people as
regards intimate/sexual relationships.                    
                                                          
6.  Know the  Will of God in regards to  how  other people
should/must behave to be in dialogue with God.            
                                                          
7.  Put bounds of the works of Love.                      
                                                          
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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