This is http://www.essayz.com/b0209062.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %DOMINATION MOTIVATION KEEP YOUNG PEOPLE IGNORANT+020906 %BREED FEARS UNKNOWN DIFFERENT USEFUL TOOLS MEANS+020906 %CONTROL MANAGE PROTECT DEFEND LEGITIMACY HEALTHY+020906 %PERSONAL IGNORANCE INADEQUACY MYTHIC CONTEXTS LOVE+020906 %LINGUISTIC VOCABULARY CONCEPTS SYNTAX PARADIGMS 020906 Why might domineering people be motivated to try to keep young people ignorant about how to deal with the risks of becoming involved in intimate/sexual relationships? 1. Ignorance breeds fears of the unknown, fears which can be manipulated to control the ignorant ones. Ignorance is a tool which domineering people find useful to use in abusing vulnerable/ignorant people. Such fears should be nurtured as useful tools of domination! 2. It is more dangerous to engage in intimate/sexual relationships when you do not know how to protect yourself against the risks of involvement --- thus giving legitimacy to admonitions not to take risks which you do not know how to manage. To keep young people from becoming involved in healthy intimate/sexual relationships --- maintain their ignorance so as to keep intimacy/sexuality dangerous. 3. When your children become involved in healthy intimate/sexual relationships they become less dependent upon parents --- and so it not easy to dominate them. It is easier to dominate ignorant children than it is to dominate well informed and healthy children. 4. Involvement in intimate/sexual relationships prompts participants to become more discerning into how it is that dysfunctional human relationships are the fruits of domination, tragic-controls, abuse, ignorance of love and intimacy, etc. Such knowledge will undermine the apparent integrity of "The Domination System". 5. Talking about intimate/sexual relationships might expose how insecure, unsure, vulnerable, and fearful the domineering people themselves are --- and so undermine their ability to maintain their pretenses of: security, certainty, invulnerability and self-confidence. 6. Talking about intimate/sexual relationships might take the cover off of domineering people's Pandora Boxes of repressed sexual desires and fantasies. That is unthinkable, because such desires and fantasies are taboo! 7. Domineering people have not been personally involved in truly intimate/sexual relationships --- because they have been rather exclusively involved in domination. Thus domineering people limit themselves to theoretical statements which they have not personally tested in existential ways. It is taboo, in violation of the collusive games of mutual self deception of "The Domination System", to existentially test such theories by becoming involved in healthy, open, and honest intimate/sexual relationships. 8. Domineering people are not familiar/facile with the words/concepts which pertain to intimate/sexual relationships. So they cannot engage in open and honest dialogue about such unfamiliar/embarrassing relationships. They lack the needed linguistic resources and facilities. 9. Domineering people do not live within a mythic/theological context which facilitates consideration of reflexive human relationships; i.e., relationships within which the participants openly and honestly reflect upon themselves, each other, and their evolving mutual considerations about their intimate/sexual relationships. Such things cannot be controlled unilaterally! (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================