This is http://www.essayz.com/b0207281.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %HONOR RESPECT SUPPORT COMPLAINTS OBJECTIONS LEGAL+020728 %COURTS JUDGES JUDGEMENTS LITIGATION PUNISHMENTS+020728 %CONTEXT SITUATION COMPLEXITY COMPLEMENTARY CAUSE+020728 %AUTHENTIC PERSONAL CHARACTERISTICS PEACEMAKERS+020728 %LEGITIMATE STANDING DUE PROCESS PREJUDICE BIAS 020728 When is it prudent/wise to honor, respect, and support the following kinds of actions; and when is it NOT? The actions in question include: COMPLAINTS OBJECTIONS LITIGATIONS On the basis of what kinds of considerations can distinctions be made between occasions of the above kinds of actions --- so as to promote both personal and communal integrities in the most helpful possible ways, for all who are involved? The following words point to considerations which we may helpfully consider in each context as regards the behaviors of those INITIATING complaints, objections, litigations, etc. --- in comparison to those who are the DEFENDANTS against such initiatives? HONESTY DECEPTION OPENNESS SECRETIVENESS AUTHENTICITY PRETENTIOUSNESS HUMILITY ARROGANCE GENEROSITY STINGINESS SERVICE DEMANDS COOPERATION CONTENTIOUSNESS TRUST SUSPICION CONFIDENCE FEARFULNESS CONSIDERATION REMONSTRATIONS SYMPATHY REQUIREMENTS EMPATHY INSENSITIVITY MERCY CONDEMNATIONS LIBERATION IMPRISONMENTS HEALING CONCEALMENTS HUMOR THREATS APPRECIATION DENIGRATION HONORS CRITICISMS INTEGRATION DESTRUCTION DIALOGUE PREJUDICE LISTENING PREACHING People who illustrate behaviors which may reasonably be characterized by many words on the left above are usually more worthy of honor, respect and support --- than are people who illustrate behaviors which may reasonably be characterized by many words on the right above. It is the overall pattern which needs to draw our attention; not any single behavior or characteristic. We need to beware of assuming that the initiator of a complaint, objection or litigation is more likely to be worthy of honor, respect and support --- than is the person against whom the complaint, objection or litigation is directed. Domineering people and mentally ill people often complain, object and litigate when there is no good reason for them to do so. We should honor, respect and/or support their behaviors only if they offer clear evidence that there are good reasons for honoring their complaints, objections and/or litigations --- beyond reasonable doubts, given the circumstances and characteristics of the people who are involved on both sides. The letter-of-the-law is not the single most important consideration. The above comments suggest many other considerations which may be more important than the formal letter-of-the-law in deciding which behaviors merit our respect, honor and support. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================