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  %ESSENTIAL ESSENCE DOMINEERING PEOPLE PREOCCUPIED+020702
  %TACIT OVERT CLEAR SHOULD PLAY ROLES CANNOT AGREE+020702
  %FORBID TABOO TOPIC QUESTION AGREEMENT SUBMISSIVE+020702
  %DOMINATION CONTROL OUTCOME CAUSE CONSEQUENCE GOD+020702
  %IMPLICIT COLLUSION DISHONESTY PRETENTIONS DEVILS+020702
     %LOVERS SANCTUARIES INTEGRITIES HEALTH HEALING 020702
                                                          
     Domineering people are preoccupied with:             
       the notion that someone or group should            
         be dominant and that others should               
           be submissive/subservient.                     
                                                          
     Domineering people  CANNOT agree (must NOT?) agree   
       with each other just who does (should?) play       
         the domineering role and who does (should?) play 
           the submissive role.  They agree that this     
             question is (should?) be tacit, implicit;    
               and be the enduring focus of their         
                 enduring conflict and violence.          
                                                          
     Domineering people agree (tacitly?) that the         
       dishonest rules of their collusive games           
         of mutual self deception are (must be?) tacit;   
           never clarified, never made explicit; always   
             the tacit focus of the question: who is      
               (should be?) in charge and/or control?     
                 It is always tacitly agreed that they    
                   do not (and should not) agree on       
                     who is (should be?) in charge        
                       and/or control.  If they did       
                         overtly agree on that issue,     
                           they would have nothing to     
                             serve as the focus for       
                               their meaningful and       
                                 enduring coercion        
                                   and violent fights     
                                     and contentious      
                                       wars of wills.     
                                                          
     Lovers overtly agree that they are not (should not!) 
       be preoccupied with issues of control and/or of    
         domination.                                      
                                                          
     Lovers are not preoccupied with whether or not       
       their agreements are tacit or overt; for they are  
         NOT (and agree that they should NOT be) playing  
           any collusive games of mutual self deception;  
             so they are NOT (and agree that they should  
               NOT be) in tension/contention over such    
                 matters which do NOT truly matter at all.
                                                          
     Lovers are comfortable accepting into their lives    
       the realities & virtues of: mutually-complementary-
         paradoxical-truths, essential-mysteries, Love,   
           ambiguities, uncertainties, tentative-truths,  
             continuing-hypotheses, vulnerabilities,      
               diverse-integrities, Love's-Sanctuaries,   
                 different-people-with-their-differences, 
                   unresolved-differences, integration,   
                     and indifference towards issues of   
                       control and settling who is in     
                         Control as The Dominant One.     
                           Lovers are clue less.          
                             about such issues;           
                               just don't care.           
                                                          
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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