This is http://www.essayz.com/b0206262.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %KEY QUESTIONS LIVES INTEGRITY HANG FRAME TERMS GOD+020626 %WILLING TO SACRIFICE COUNTER INTUITIVE HUMBLE EVIL+020626 %ENJOY SHALOM GIVING UP ODD EVEN RELATIONSHIPS GOOD+020626 %DECEPTIVE DISHONEST APPEARANCES POSSESSIONS BETTER+020626 %DESIRE PLEASURE SEXUALITY INTIMACY RELATIONSHIPS+020626 %PATIENCE BALANCE DIALOGUE SANCTUARY VULNERABILITY 020626 Many of the key questions upon which our lives and integrity hang --- can be framed helpfully in terms of --- what we are WILLING-TO-SACRIFICE <=> GIVE-UP. WARNING: Much here is COUNTER-INTUITIVE. Humble and careful thought is essential. We enjoy-shalom only through our GIVING-UP ODD things. We suffer-evil-relationships by GIVING-UP EVEN things. GIVING-UP entails LETTING-GO-OF; NO-LONGER-CLUTCHING. It is essential to deal with some double-negatives below! The right column suggests the fruits of "GIVING UP" the suggested "thing". WHAT MAY BE GIVEN UP ODD Being deceptive and/or dishonest <=> shalom ODD Desired appearances and possessions <=> shalom ODD APPEARING to better and/or best <=> shalom ODD Winning special advantages for self <=> shalom ODD Conformity to a universal standard <=> shalom ODD Ignorance, confusion and prejudices <=> shalom ODD Certainty and invulnerability <=> shalom ODD Unilateral powers to be in control <=> shalom ODD Preoccupations with issues of control <=> shalom ODD Addictions, codependencies & collusions <=> shalom ODD Exclusivity, judgmentalism, legalism <=> shalom ODD Excommunications and banishments <=> shalom ODD APPEARANCES of agreement and unity <=> shalom ODD Focusing upon separated individuals <=> shalom ODD Elimination of unfamiliar differences <=> shalom ODD Elimination of embarrassments <=> shalom ODD Elimination of impurities/imperfections <=> shalom ODD Elimination of that which is "evil" <=> shalom ODD Elimination of perceived threats <=> shalom ODD Elimination of vulnerability <=> shalom ODD Elimination of insecurity <=> shalom ODD Elimination of fears and concerns <=> shalom ODD Elimination of disagreements/conflicts <=> shalom ODD Elimination of sanctuaries for any poor <=> shalom ODD Elimination of sanctuaries for any sick <=> shalom ODD Elimination of sanctuaries for any evil <=> shalom ODD Elimination of sanctuaries for any sins <=> shalom EVEN Balanced sharing of power and benefits <=> evil EVEN Honest friendships and intimacy <=> evil EVEN Patient listening and dialogue <=> evil EVEN Graceful civility and cooperation <=> evil EVEN Mutual understanding, peace and health <=> evil EVEN Personal and communal integrities <=> evil EVEN Communication and privacy rights <=> evil EVEN Focusing upon relationships as such <=> evil (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================