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  %PERSONAL PAUSE INVENTORY BEFORE DEMANDS CONTROLS+020625
 %IMPOSE REQUIREMENTS COERCIVE VIOLENCE RESPECT SIN+020625
%DEVILS KNOWLEDGE TRUST FEAR ANXIETY RESPONSIBILITY+020625
 %BLAME SHAME PUNISHMENT THREATEN PRISON LIBERATION+020625
 %EDUCATION LISTENING LECTURING PREACHING ARROGANCE+020625
%HUMILITY PEACEMAKING RECYCLING ABUSE CHILDHOOD GOD 020625
                                                          
     We  will  all  do  well to  pause thoughtfully before
we  impose demands,   requirements,  and coercive controls
upon other people whom  we do not know,  respect,   trust;
and/or  may deeply fear.                                  
                                                          
     We   may  bear as much responsibility for their  lack
of knowledge,  respect, trust; and/or the presence of fear
---as they do. To discern if that is the case,  we need to
ask questions such as:                                    
                                                          
     1.  Are we victims of physical and/or mental disease?
                                                          
     2.  Are we recycling abuse/violence from early years?
                                                          
     3.  Are we and they victims of The Domination System?
                                                          
     4.  Are we playing collusive self-deception games?   
                                                          
     5.  Are we victims of addiction/codependency games?  
                                                          
     6.  Are we and/or they arrogant and self-righteous?  
                                                          
     7.  Are we playing negative and/or zero sum games?   
                                                          
     8.  Do some people understand us better than we do?  
                                                          
     9.  Are we and/or they good at being peacemakers?    
                                                          
    10.  Are we and/or they good at conflict resolution?  
                                                          
    11.  Are we and/or they egotistical/egocentric?       
                                                          
    12.  How might we and they cooperate profitably?      
                                                          
    13.  What do we and they have in common?              
                                                          
    14.  What are our common challenges/dilemmas.         
                                                          
    15.  What opportunities for creative change exist?    
                                                          
    16.  What role models exist for creative work?        
                                                          
    17.  How have others profited together, as we might?  
                                                          
    18.  What is blocking our working together for good?  
                                                          
    19.  What prudent small risks should we take together?
                                                          
    20.  What backgrounds/values do we share in common?   
                                                          
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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