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 %FOCUS ATTENTION RELATIONSHIPS INDIVIDUALS CENTERS+020510
 %CHARACTERISTICS CIVILITY CIVILIZATION COMMUNITIES+020510
 %PARTS WHOLE INTEGRITY PATTERNS ABSENCES PRESENCES+020510
    %JUDGEMENTS CONFORMITY CREATIVITY CONDEMNATIONS+020510
  %ALIENATION ESTRANGEMENT EXCOMMUNICATION DIALOGUE 020510
                                                          
     It is helpful to focus as much upon relationships, as
       upon individuals --- whose lives are immersed in   
         relationships, good or ill.                      
                                                          
     It is helpful to focus as much upon characteristics  
       of relationships --- as upon characteristics of    
         individuals --- whose lives are immersed in      
           relationships, good or ill.                    
                                                          
     Consider the following contrasting characteristics of
       contrasting kinds of RELATIONSHIPS, good or ill.   
                                                          
     Cooperative                Contentious               
     Civil                      Contested                 
     Hospitable                 Conspiratorial            
     Balanced                   Extremist                 
     Gentle                     Violent                   
     Honest                     Collusive                 
     Healing                    Addictive                 
     Liberating                 Repressive                
     Peacemaking                Domineering               
     Diplomatic                 Terrorizing               
     Gracious                   Demanding                 
     Enlivening                 Deadening                 
     Peaceful                   Aggressive                
     Tolerant                   Prejudicial               
     Forgiving                  Judgemental               
     Reconciling                Excommunicative           
     Hopeful                    Hopeless                  
     Trustful                   Suspicious                
     Respectful                 Demeaning                 
                                                          
     To the extent that people live within RELATIONSHIPS  
       which are characterized by words up and down one   
         column, to that extent they as INDIVIDUALS may   
           come to be characterized by words upon and down
             the same column.  Children who are born into 
               and/or grow up in families which are often 
                 characterized by the words in one column,
                   often grow up to be individuals who are
                     characterized by the same set of     
                       words; who form families that then 
                         nurture children into the same   
                           patterns that they experienced 
                             as children of relationships 
                               which give birth to more of
                                 the same.  The sins of   
                                   the parents are visited
                                     upon the children for
                                       many generations in
                                        tragic succession,
                                         unless we do work
                                          hard to break   
                                           the tragic     
                                            cycle of      
                                             aliens       
                                              without     
                                               love       
                                                living    
                                                 false    
                                                  lives.  
                                                          
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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