This is http://www.essayz.com/b0203261.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %FACILITATE PROMOTE MAINTAIN INTEGRITY COMMUNITIES+020326 %MEMBERS RECOGNIZE NAME TALK CLARIFY ARTICULATE SAY+020326 %POINT TOWARDS DIFFERENCES SANCTUARY THREATEN DEVIL+020326 %PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS INTIMACY VULNERABILITY SINS+020326 %SELF RIGHTEOUSNESS ARROGANCE GRACIOUS LOVERS GODS+020326 %PATTERNS PRISONS LIBERATIONS HEALINGS PEACEMAKERS 020326 We cannot facilitate, promote or maintain the integrity of our communities without helping all members of our communities to recognize, name, talk about, clarify and point-to the differences between communities which are characterized by the phrases below in the two columns of correlated characteristics, on the right, and on the left: SANCTUARY THREATENING GRACIOUS VIOLENT TOLERANT COERCIVE INTEGRATIVE DISINTEGRATIVE COOPERATIVE COMPETITIVE ENCOURAGING DEMANDING SYMPATHETIC JUDGEMENTAL HUMBLE ARROGANT SHALOM ANGRY FORGIVENESS REVENGE BUILDING DESTRUCTIVE GROWING DECAYING AUTHENTIC PRETENTIOUS LOVING COMMANDING OPEN SECRETIVE DISARMING DEFENSIVE HONEST DECEPTIVE HEALTHY DIS-EASED CREATIVE CONTENTIOUS UNDERSTANDING EXACTING Each word above may be followed by the word COMMUNITY to suggest and/or point to a community which is characterized by the whole column of words on one side or on the other side. It is the pattern of characteristics which should be noted and be attended to; not just a single one of them. PATTERNS are important for us to see. Some people have NOT been fortunate to have been part of a SANCTUARY COMMUNITY which demonstrates the pattern on the left above. They have been imprisoned within the walls of THREATENING and DISINTEGRATING other communities which have long demonstrated the other pattern on the right above; making the healthy communities appear to be threatening in ways which must not be made clear by anybody. People in the THREATENING COMMUNITIES cannot trust people in the other communities which are truly SANCTUARY COMMUNITIES in the healthy ways of true lovers motivated by GOD who is Love, One. 1 Members of SANCTUARY COMMUNITIES help each other and help members of THREATENING COMMUNITIES to recognize the patterns pointed to above by the columns of words on the left and on the right. Members of SANCTUARY COMMUNITIES do what they can do to help members of THREATENING COMMUNITIES to recognize how they are trapped/imprisoned within various THREATENING COMMUNITIES that work to obscure the disintegrative ways in which their THREATENING COMMUNITIES make it nearly impossible for them to be true to themselves and to each other person. THREATS and PUNISHMENTS are not helpful. To the extent that prescriptions, proscriptions and commandments are threatening and lead to alienative punishments; they are not helpful. Attempts to insure proper conformity are more successful in engendering hidden rebellion than in facilitating and encouraging true conformity. All people should NOT ONLY have the opportunity to become aware of the various patterns of characteristics of sanctuary communities and threatening communities --- they SHOULD ALSO be free to choose what communities to participate in and to leave. It is NOT HELPFUL for communities to entrap people within the communities which are acting as prisons which threaten disloyal prisoners. In the absence of the above, some communities are likely to become breeding grounds for terrorists who are alienated from healthy communities and are prone to strike out in destructive ways which will undermine the integrity of the whole community within Space-Ship-Earth --- which is an isolated community within a very cold and un-inviting environment around it. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================