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   %CONTROL DOMINATE EVIL INDIVIDUALS RELATIONSHIPS+020222
  %INTRUDE PRIVACY RIGHTS INTIMACY HONEST SANCTUARY+020222
%PRIMARY REALITIES GOOD SELF RIGHTEOUSNESS ARROGANT+020222
 %INTRUSION COERCION LAWS CONTROL COMMANDMENTS FALL+020222
 %DIVERSE INTEGRITIES COHERENCE HEALTH DIALOGUE SIN 020222
                                                          
     Domineering people lead us into thinking that        
       it is evil-individuals whom we must control ---    
         under the leadership of domineering people who   
           are in the service of "The Domination System". 
             They treat individuals-as-primary, and teach 
               us to regard good-relationships as only    
                 secondary to good individuals. They say  
                   that good individuals form good        
                     relationships; ignoring the role of  
                       good relationships in engendering  
                         people of diverse kinds of       
                           personal integrities which are 
                             the fruits of diverse kinds  
                               of integrative relations.  
                                                          
     If we must control evil-individuals, we must control 
       the evil-relationships which engender the evil     
         which is attributed to individuals who are       
           labeled as being evil-individuals; without much
             attention to the evil-relationships within   
               which the individuals are trapped as       
                 members of collusions, power-struggles,  
                   addictive/codependent relationships,   
                     arrogant leaders, etc.               
                                                          
     Our dilemma is that we cannot control relationships  
       within which we are not participants.  We cannot   
         control evil-relationships except as participants
           within the evil-relationships.   Outsiders have
             little influence on evil-relationships.  So  
               long as we pretend that we are outsiders to
                 the evil-relationships which we presume  
                   to try to control --- we have no power 
                     to control what we call evil.    We  
                       are prone to barge into many evil- 
                         relationships and try to become  
                           "good" participants who feel   
                              free-of-evil and qualified  
                                to fix evil-relationship. 
                                   We thereby engender    
                                     more evil-relations. 
                                       It does not work!  
                                         Let's be honest. 
                                                          
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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