This is http://www.essayz.com/b0201251.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %KEYS TO LASTING ROBUST SECURITY INVULNERABILITY+020125 %LETTING GO INTIMACY FRIENDSHIPS SEXUALITY DEVILS+020125 %SORTING OUT REJECTIONS EXCLUSIVITY PURIFICATIONS+020125 %GOODS GOLD DIRT SOIL GROWING PLANTS FOOD THOUGHT+020125 %INHIBITION REPRESSIONS COLLUSIONS DISHONESTY SIN+020125 %LOCKED PRISONS INSIDERS PREFERENTIAL TREATMENTS 020125 Among the keys to true and lasting security are: ========================== =========================== = LETTING GO OF THESE: = = NOT HOLDING ONTO THESE: = ========================== =========================== Grudges over past wrongs Anger and resentment Desires for revenge Memories of past injuries Anger and resentment Grudges and weapons of war Memories of past injuries Desires for full revenge Keeping score accurately Desires for more goods Wanting to be "the best" Being invulnerable to others Unilateral ego-security Visions of total security Arrogant self-righteousness Visions of being perfect Perfection as an ego-ideal The right to control others Being at God's Right Hand The rights of Kings/Queens Judgementalism/Legalism Cast-systems and prejudices Dichotomous thinking Sharp boundaries Absolute certainty The Knowledge of good & evil Idolatrous ways of life Good exclusive ways of life Technocratic ways/tools Military security systems Exclusivity and dichotomies Preferential goods/treatment Desires for invulnerability Invulnerability as security Solutions to tragic dilemmas Technological ways to heaven Delusions of grandeur Desirable violent conflict Collusions as good means Addictions and codependents Possessing absolute truths Controlling others' thoughts Controlling miracles Undermining others' success Always being the winners Always-winning as the ideal Managing others' visions Envisioning being-in-control Splendid-isolation Freedom to say what is good Unilateral commandments Egocentric superiority Royal prerogatives/rights Law-books & judgement-rites Pretentious appearances The rites of being deceptive Hopes for full independence Pretensions of independence Pretentious invulnerability Destructive defense systems Insulting rights/rites Conformity oriented security Demands for conformity Required forms of unity Imprisoned truths Exclusive absolute truths We disintegrate when we hold onto our disintegrative stuff as if it were the means to our salvation. The more we cherish such disintegrative stuff, the more it appears to be the means to our salvation; and the less we can think clearly, behave dearly, and co-operate creatively. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================