This is http://www.essayz.com/b0112201.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %RECOGNIZE REVEAL DISCERN EXPOSE DESCRIBE TELLING+011220 %DIFFERENCE UNHEALTHY DISINTEGRATIVE RELATIONSHIPS+011220 %SAYINGS OBJECTIONABLE PERSONAL INTIMACIES FRIENDS+011220 %CHARACTERISTICS ASPECTS INDICATIONS INSIDERS SINS+011220 %PREJUDICE IGNORANCE STANDING DEFECTIVE ADDICTIONS+011220 %CODEPENDENT SUPPORTERS DOMINATION SYSTEM DEVILS 011220 How are we to recognize and tell the difference between healthy-personal-relationships, and truly objectionable-personal relationships? What are the characteristics which are most telling, the aspects which most clearly indicate that insiders and/or outsiders to the relationships should have legal "standing" to object to the continuation of a "defective" relationship? What are the characteristics which are present within healthy-relationships; but are absent from un-healthy-relationships? What are the characteristics which are absent from un-healthy-relationships; but which are present in healthy-relationships? What are the characteristics which MAY be present within both healthy and un-healthy relationships? What are the characteristics which MUST be present within healthy-relationships --- for them to be judged to be healthy-relationships? What are the characteristics which MUST NOT be present within healthy-relationships --- for them to continue to be regarded as healthy-relationships? What are the characteristics which are sufficient grounds for condemning a relationship as --- "objectionable", "improper", "unhealthy", "threatening", "dammedable", "scandalous" "evil", "sinful", etc? What are the characteristics of relationships which are sufficient grounds for excluding the participants in the relationship --- from the privilege of fellowship and community? From participation in positions of power and influence? When are the characteristics of relationships that are so objectionable --- that it is in the best interest of the community to EXCOMMUNICATE the participants in the relationships from --- communication with the other members in the community; from communication with the most influential and powerful members of the community? What kinds of participants in what kinds of DEFECTIVE RELATIONSHIPS should the most influential and powerful members of the community be protected against --- because of dangers which are inherent in open and honest communications with them? How are we to recognize occasions when domineering people are objecting to relationships which are threatening the concentrations of power which the domineering people have accumulated; and/or are threatening The Domination System which the domineering people maintain and serve faithfully as idolaters/victims? How are we to recognize self-centered motivations which are concealed behind pretentious efforts to promote social-stability, law & order, propriety, respectability and decency? How are we to recognize collusive games of mutual self deception which are played by the most powerful and well respected religious, political and scholarly leaders we know? (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================