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 %RECOGNIZE OBSERVE RESPECT HEALTHY BOUNDARIES SINS+010712
 %PUBLIC PRIVATE LIVES RIGHTS RESPECT HONOR SUPPORT+010712
 %COLLUSIVE DISHONEST ADDICTS CODEPENDENT DISHONEST+010712
  %SERVITUDE IDOLATRY DOMINATION SYSTEM LAWS ORDERS 010712
                                                          
     Healthy  people observe/respect  boundaries   between
their  public  selves,    and their private  selves;   and
respect other peoples' similar boundaries.   While trusted
intimate   others may be granted access to some aspects of
their private selves,  such access is not casually granted
to all!                                                   
                                                          
     Collusive     and   domineering   people  rarely make
distinctions  between  their  public  selves  and    their
private  selves  ---   because under the  terms  of  their
servitude to "The Domination System"  ---  all aspects  of
their  selves  must  be open to all faithful  servants  of
"The Domination System"   ---   else they cannot keep each
other  fully faithful through coercive domineering methods
which  entail/require   knowing  which  commandments   are
being  violated  privately.     The  distinctions  between
public and private   selves  must be  eliminated  ---  for
"The  Domination System" to survive "with integrity."     
                                                          
     Collusive    and  domineering  people   are   playing
collusive  games  of  mutual self  deception.     They  as
persons cannot win at such games,  unless they can conceal
certain  aspects  of themselves from each  other;    e.g.,
concealing    their  own  failures  to  be   thoughtlessly
faithful  to "The Domination System".    (Never mind  that
this   is  inconsistent  with what was  said  just  above.
Consistency  and  integriy  are not  essential.)      They
cannot    be honest  with each other about the distinctive
aspects  of themselves  as  individuals,     because   all
aspects    of  themselves  must be in conformity  to  "The
Truth"    of  "The Domination System".    However,    they
cannot   be  clear  about the  differences  between  their
private  aspects and  their public  aspects.     Thus they
fall  into the trap of  being dishonest  about  aspects of
themselves which are  truly "in-common"  with most people.
What   are they to do about such  obvious  dishonesty  ---
when what is truly  "in-common"    among people is pointed
out.       Creative  dishonesty is  in order,   but it  is
tiring as they  have to move from  half-truths to  quarter
truths,  to eighth-truths, etc.  They can never  relax  or
enjoy  recreation.      They  are   kept  busy  concealing
previous instances/layers of dishonesty!                  
                                                          
     We  cannot know for sure whether a person is a person
of integrity,   without entering with them into a personal
relationship which is an integrative relationship;   i.e.,
one  which facilitates and promotes the integrity of   all
of    the   participants  in  the   relationship.    Thus,
domineering  people cannot truly determine whether   other
people  are  persons of integrity  ---    for  domineering
people  cannot  with  integrity  enter  into  a   personal
relationship,    which    is   an     honest   integrative
relationship;  for their ways are founded upon domination,
coercion,  deception, collusions, and dishonesty.  As long
as  they cling to "The Domination  System",    domineering
people   will  remain  ignorant about the inner  lives  of
people  and communities of integrity.    They lead  tragic
lives and drag others into their tragic lives.            
                                                          
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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