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 %MOURNING DEATH ILLUSION COLLUSION FOND HOPES LOSS+001109
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     It is hare to deal with of a dear friend,  loved one,
and/or  relationship.   Mourning a death entails coming to
terms  with truths which one does not want to  acknowledge
and  deal  with.    True  grief is  often  hard  come  by.
Illusions  and collusions often seem the better choice ---
at least in the short-term; which tragically often become 
the  long-term  trap/prison.    Short-term  denials  often
become frozen-in-place long-term-denials; collusions.     
                                                          
     The  tragic  patterns  which  follow the  death  of a
friend,  lover,  and/or relationship ---  also follow  the
death of a hope, expectation,  illusion or collusion which
dies  in  the face  of  an  avalanche  of  experiences and
evidence  that  an  apparent integrity  can no  longer  be
sustained within any coherent community of integrity:     
                                                          
     Loss of a job or career opportunity.                 
                                                          
     Loss of a "big sales opportunity".                   
                                                          
     Loss of a political or religious election.           
                                                          
     The failure of a major technical endeavor.           
                                                          
     The explosion of a major space-launch rocket.        
                                                          
     The crash of an airplane full of passengers.         
                                                          
     The loss of a house through a fire/explosion.        
                                                          
     Failure to pass a major test.                        
                                                          
     The death of the man-centered universe.              
                                                          
     The death of the earth-centered universe.            
                                                          
     The death of the sun-centered universe.              
                                                          
     The death of the scripture-centered universe.        
                                                          
     We will be unlikely to be well and do well so long as
we  fail to acknowledge and mourn the deaths of our hopes,
expectations,  illusions,  collusions ---  as well as  the
deaths  of our friends,  lovers and relationships.   To be
healthy  and enjoy personal and communal integrity we need
to acknowledge them all and truly mourn them all.         
                                                          
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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