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  %WHY EXCLUSIVE CLUB CHURCH ORGANIZATION FAIL FALL+000721
  %RESPECT HONOR SUPPORT CONFLICT DOMINATION SYSTEM+000721
  %CRITERIA TECHNOLOGY CONFLICT WAR VIOLENCE DEVILS 000721
                                                          
     To the extent that  clubs and churches respect, honor
and  support exclusive members ---  they  ultimately  fade
away or destroy themselves in conflict.   Members  compete
with each other  in  perfecting CRITERIA  for exclusion of
imperfect members;   and  in perfecting MEANS by which  to
exclude  imperfect  members.    Members  leave in disgust;
and/or  stay to fight over the right to stay.    Outsiders
see little to attract them into such  clubs  and churches.
Insiders fight over who is best.                          
                                                          
     To the extent that clubs and churches respect,  honor
and support integrative members --- they grow in integrity
as  healthy fellowships which  are attractive to outsiders
and   attractive   to  members   who   consider   leaving.
Integrative members focus upon how  and  why to facilitate
and   promote   both  personal  and  communal   integrity.
Different members honor and support the complementary ways
in   which  each  member  can  contribute to  the   health
and  vitality   of  the  whole.     Arrogant   and   self-
righteous members receive little respect, honor or support
for  their  arrogance  and  self-righteousness.      Their
conflicts  are   not  popular  and  so   their   conflicts
ultimately    fade   away  because  they  are  treated  as
unworthy of respect,  honor and support.       Integrative
members      focus      upon      conflict     resolution,
reconciliation,   and  peace-making;    rather  than  upon
preparing for battles and additional conflicts.           
                                                          
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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