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 %EXCOMMUNICATION REFUSAL LISTEN DIALOGUE OTHER SIN+000715
 %BLOCKED LEARNING UNDERSTANDING COOPERATION DEVILS+000715
    %FAILURE FRIENDSHIP INTIMACY KNOWLEDGE TOGETHER 000715
                                                          
     Excommunication can take many forms.    In some forms
the essence of excommunication is a refusal on the part of
an  excommunicator to listen to,  be in dialogue  with  or
otherwise   get  to  know  some  other  person(s).     The
excommunication  in  such instances may be tacit;   rather
than overt.  The excommunicator cuts self off from others;
but  may deceive self into thinking that it is  the  other
person(s) who is/are the victim(s) of excommunication.    
                                                          
     A  group  of people may  refuse to listen to,  be  in
dialogue  with  or  otherwise  get  to  know  some   other
person(s)   ---  and play a collusive game of mutual  self
deception  according to which they think that it  is  only
other(s)   have  been  made  victim;   when  in  fact  the
excommunicating group itself may be the  primary victim of
its own act(s) of excommunication.                        
                                                          
     In instances of excommunication the  initiator(s)  of
excommunication  fall(s)   victim  ---   as  much  as  the
intended  target(s).   "Things"  are not as simple and  in
keeping with intentions as the initiator(s)  hoped, think,
and/or perceive "things" to be.                           
                                                          
     Excommunications  engender both personal and communal
disintegration  because of the alienation,   estrangement,
separations,   misunderstandings,  ignorance,   confusion,
prejudices,   and evil relationships which are engendered.
The fruits of excommunications are tragically bitter,  but
the  initiators often know not what they do --- because of
the  collusive  games of mutual self deception which  they
play.    They  cannot learn from their mistakes,   and  so
repeat their mistakes over and over in a tragic cycle.    
                                                          
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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