This is http://www.essayz.com/b0004221.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %CENTRAL ISSUES CONFLICTS TRUE FRIENDS INTIMATES+000422 %LOVERS CONTENTIOUS RELATIONSHIPS DOMINATION SYSTEM+000422 %PATIENCE GRACIOUS UNDERSTAND NAME DESCRIBE TALK+000422 %EXCLUDE ESSENTIAL FOUNDATIONS PERSONAL INTEGRITY+000422 %COMMUNAL HEALTH PROTECT CONTROL TURF LIBERAL HEAL 000422 What are the central issues in the conflicts between true friends, intimates, and lovers on the one hand; and those others who create and maintain contentious relationships with true friends, intimates, and lovers? To discern the central issues in such conflicts consider that: 1. Lovers patiently seek gracious ways to understand, name, describe, talk about, transcend and subvert the non-cooperative, contentious and alienative ways in which many people support "The Domination System". 2. Dominant people exclude from favorable consideration all the essential foundations for both personal and communal integrity --- and all of the people who patiently seek to build up those essential foundations. Dominant people are protecting their turf. 3. Lovers are in the business of liberating unfortunate people who are imprisoned by exclusive affirmations made by dominant people who are protecting their turf and special advantages --- at the expense of people who are weak, sick, thirsty, homeless, ignorant, confused, fearful, ill-at-ease, diseased, alienated, and condemned. 4. Dominant people promote favorable consideration of tools and technologies which facilitate the concentration of powers to be in control --- into the hands of dominant people; e.g., the unilateral promotion of sicknesses, homelessness, ignorance, confusion, fears, anxieties, compulsions, alienation, and condemnations. 5. Lovers encourage weak and vulnerable people to clearly see, hear and feel --- how it is that dominant people support "The Domination System" --- even when dominant people are engaged in conflicts with each other over who will be most dominant; and over what ideals, values, principles, and goals will play dominant roles in all people's lives. 6. Dominant people unilaterally abuse many tools in their efforts to play dominant/exclusive roles within their communities: dishonesty, addictions, codependencies, deception, appearances, reputations, honors, prizes, compliments, attentions, power, responsibilities, elected office, etc. 7. Lovers help people to recognize, name, describe and talk about full rainbows of healthy alternatives and opportunities which they can: respect, honor, prize, compliment, attend to, empower, respond to, elect, and chose with personal and communal integrity. 8. Dominant people seek to limit people's perceptions and attention to the real nature of dichotomous issues pertaining to: yes/no, good/evil, right/wrong, success/failure, accepted/rejected, salvation/damnation, true/false, responsive/absolute, related/isolated, love/fear, reconciliation/sin, relaxation/contentiousness, etc. IF we cannot clearly recognize and talk about the nature of the conflicts between lovers and dominant people --- we are bound to be dominated and imprisoned by dominant people who imprison themselves as they imprison others who seek to express God's Love through Liberating Service and Worship Services. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================