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 %MANDATORY DEFENSIVENESS CONTENTIOUS CONFLICT EVIL+981114                
%DISENGAGEMENT DISHONEST COLLUSION CONTEST VIOLENCE 981114           
                                                                                                                               
     When contentious people are dominant and/or in charge                
---  they   often   lead   us  into   mandatory   patterns  
of defensiveness,  contentiousness, conflict, disagreement                
and  anxiety.       It is not a simple matter to  say  "no                                                                     
thank  you"   to  their  patterns  of   being   defensive,                                                             
contentious, conflicted, disagreeable and anxious.   It is                
an  insult to their way of life to fail to respond to them      
in  kind;   for they cannot tolerate  conflict-resolution,                                              
reconciliation, peacemaking,   cooperation,   and honesty.                                                                  
They  cannot tolerate  anything which will expose the lack               
of integrity in  their  collusive  games  of  mutual  self                            
deception. Playing their games is mandatory.    Failing to 
play their games is grounds for severe punishment!                                                                             
                                                                                                                               
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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