This is http://www.essayz.com/a9810291.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %TRUE LOVE ENJOYMENT PEACE TRANQUIL SHALOM HONEST+981029 %DEFENSIVE SECURITY SECRECY INVULNERABLE DISHONEST+981029 %ANXIETY FEAR CONTENTION CONTEST WINNING LOSE FAIL 981029 People who are seeking to achieve security through defensive maneuvers cannot afford to: relax, be in love, enjoy healthy friendships, be good neighbors to each other, be true to themselves or others, participate in conflict resolution, be at peace with themselves or others, be vulnerable in open and honest dialogue, or truly enjoy both personal and communal integrity. * * * * * * * * People who seek to achieve security must always: be on guard, be suspicious of "friends", take advantage of opportunities for gain, try to appear very self confident and secure, seek conflict resolution through superior dominance, be ready to take advantage of points of vulnerability, stand ready to sacrifice integrity to achieve security. If we do not recognize, name, describe and talk about the above differences between people --- we are likely to be fools who do not know the difference between appearances and realities --- who therefor do foolish things. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================