This is http://www.essayz.com/a9807081.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %DYSFUNCTIONAL DISINTEGRATIVE CONTROL STRATEGY PLAN+980708 %COLLUSIVE DISHONEST DEFENSIVE REBELLION INSECURITY+980708 %HUMANE RELATIONSHIPS FRIENDSHIPS INTIMACY SEXUAL+980708 %ABUSE ADDICTION CODEPENDENCE PROSTITUTION RAPE SIN+980708 %PORNOGRAPHY MASTURBATE EVIL LEARN FAILURE REPRESS 980708 A control strategy is dysfunctional/disintegrative if it elicits, engenders or encourages --- response patterns which are: DISHONEST DECEPTIVE MISLEADING COLLUSIVE ADDICTIVE COERCIVE VIOLENT ALIENATIVE DESTRUCTIVE. It is especially dysfunctional/disintegrative to maintain a control strategy which has shown itself to be dysfunctional/disintegrative by how often it has in the past elicited, engendered and/or encouraged response patterns which are: DISHONEST DECEPTIVE MISLEADING COLLUSIVE ADDICTIVE COERCIVE VIOLENT ALIENATIVE DESTRUCTIVE. Only fools continue to maintain control strategies which fail so miserably! People who continue to respect, honor, and/or support dysfunctional/disintegrative control strategies which have often shown themselves to be dysfunctional/disintegrative in the above ways --- do not merit our respect, honor, and/or support. When control strategies regularly lead to personal and communal disintegration --- they should be abandoned; for those who maintain them cannot survive as well as those who abandon them. Often the error which is made is to assume that a dilemma should be "solved" as a technical problem might be solved --- through the use of some appropriate control strategy. In such an instance of dilemmas it is futile to seek some appropriate control strategy --- following the lead of addicts and their codependent supporters who try to "solve" their dilemmas of dependency and codependency ---when what they need to do is to detach from their dysfunctional patterns of: ASSUMPTIONS ATTITUDES CONVICTIONS BELIEFS PERCEPTIONS MANIPULATIONS CONTROLS VIOLENCE DECEPTION DISHONESTY REPRESSION SUPPRESSION CONCEALMENTS FEARS ANGERS RESENTMENTS PUNISHMENTS JUDGEMENTS CONDEMNATIONS ALIENATIONS EXCOMMUNICATIONS ARROGANCE FAILURES SELF-RIGHTEOUSNESS People who are prone to think in terms of control, have repeatedly failed to deal successfully in terms of controls when confronted with dilemmas related to: NON-CONFORMITY CREATIVITY HUMAN SEXUALITY HUMAN REPRODUCTION HUMAN GROWTH CRIME EXPONENTIAL GROWTH HUMAN FINITUDE CHANGE FAILURES IDOLATRY (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================