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%SAFELY SECURELY LETTING GO DEFENSES PARANOIA FEARS+980322                                                                     
%INSECURITY CONTROL SELF CENTERED ANXIETY EXCLUSIVE+980322                       
%ARROGANCE RIGHTEOUSNESS ADDICTIONS SALVATION LOVES 980322       
                                                                                                                               
     We   cannot  prudently  let  go  of   our   defenses,                                                            
insecurity  and  fears  ---   when  we  are  embedded   in                                                                     
communities   which   are   preoccupied   with   security,                                                                
conformity and issues of control.            
                                                                                                                               
     We  need  to  let  go  of  efforts  to  control  such                 
communities and/or seek to  be  agents of change in   such                                                                
communities as we let go of efforts to control them.                                                           
                                                                                                                               
     Healthy   communities  encourage  their  members   to                                                            
develop healthy responses to: defenses against control-by-                                  
the-communities-of:     fears,    insecurity,     anxiety,                                                                
exclusivity, arrogance, self-righteousness, addictions and       
conformity.            
                                                                                                                               
     Often unhealthy religious communities which talk much                                                                
about goodness, virtue, righteousness and morality --- are       
so preoccupied  with  issues of control;  that the members                                                           
are  not free to be open and honest with each other  about                                                               
their own weaknesses, imperfections,  and mistakes.   They                   
therefore  cannot  learn  and  cannot  grow.     They  are                                                                     
paralyzed  by their fears;  trapped in collusive games  of                                                   
mutual self deception. 
                                                                                                                               
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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