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 %ADDICTIVE KINDS CONTROL SELF OTHER BEHAVE THOUGHT+971124
   %PERCEPTION EMOTION ASSESSMENT JUDGEMENT CONDEMN 971124
                                                                                                                                     
           Addictive  types  of personalities  and  leaders  are                                                
      preoccupied with  issues  of control of  both  public  and                                                           
      private, human:                                            
                                                                                                                                     
           1.  Behaviors, experiences and perceptions.        
           2.  Communications and dialogue.                                                                
           3.  Confessions of beliefs and ideals.             
           4.  Assessments of self and others.                                                      
           5.  Judgements and condemnations.                                                                                         
           6.  Self-esteem, respect and honor.                                      
                                                                                                                                     
           To  addictive  types of  personalities  and  leaders,                                                
      there  are   no   holy  or sacred grounds  which  may   be                                                                     
      beyond  the reach of their  preoccupations with issues  of                                                                     
      control   ---because  their   collusive  games  of  mutual                          
      self-deception   cannot   tolerate   any   suspicion  that 
      anywhere  there  is anybody who perceives their  games  as        
      dishonest,    rigged,  and disintegrative of  persons  and                                                                 
      communities.      Their ultimate concern is to perfect and                               
      protect  their collusive games of  mutual  self-deception. 
      They  cannot tolerate any threat to their games,   and  so               
      tolerance is a deadly sin.                                                                                                     
                                                                                                                                     
           They  are concerned primarily with appearances;   not                               
      with  integrity.    However,  to perfect and protect their                                               
      dishonest   games,   they must be ever alert to  any  hint               
      that  anybody can see through their games ---   thus  they               
      must  be concerned with private  perceptions,    thoughts,        
      attitudes,  and communications which may expose their lack                                                                
      of personal and communal integrity.   They must assume the                                                                
      worst   when there  is any hint of lack of loyalty to  the               
      games;     even  among  their best "friends".    For  this                                                                     
      reason  they  cannot  have  any  true  friends  who  value               
      openness and honesty;   for openness  and  honesty are the                                                                  
      ultimate threats  to  their games.                                                                                             
                                                                                                                                     
           For   the  above reasons,  some religious,    secular                                                                     
      and  professional    leaders   are  ultimately   concerned                               
      with   protecting  their  appearances  of  respectability,                                      
      honor,  and integrity.      Such  leaders are a threat  to                                                                   
      all  honest people's personal and communal integrities.                                                                
                                                                                                                                     
                               (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
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