This is http://www.essayz.com/a9611191.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %HOLY SACRED PERSONAL INTEGRATIVE RELATIONSHIPS 961119 Personal and communal integrity increase when we place our primary focus upon the long-term quality of our inter-personal relationships. Other considerations are secondary in communities where people truly enjoy both personal and communal integrity. Personal and communal integrity decrease when we are distracted from focusing upon the long-term quality of our inter-personal relationships. The more we are distracted the more disintegration occurs. Considerations which often distract us from focusing upon the long-term quality of our inter-personal relationships usually entail high levels of concern over issues of control related to: CONFORMITY IMPERFECTIONS EXPECTATIONS DEMANDS REQUIREMENTS COMMANDS FAILURES BLUNDERS MISTAKES GUILT SHAME EMBARRASSMENT REJECTIONS JUDGEMENTS CONDEMNATIONS CONFUSION PERCEPTIONS APPEARANCES DECEPTION DISHONESTY REPUTATIONS EXCOMMUNICATION BANISHMENT RIDICULE People who are preoccupied with issues of control tend to focus upon considerations related to what the above words point to. They are distracted and care little about the quality of long-term inter-personal relationships with those nearest and dearest to them. In the end there are very few if any people who are near and dear to them. They often end up in an alienated small community of people who are united only in passing judgements upon those who are not in their small community. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================