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            %REFLECT EXPERIENCES RATIONALIZE EXCUSE 960701

     To   the   extent  that   people   are   compulsively
preoccupied with objectivity as an ideal---to that  extent
they  are likely  to have difficulty reflecting openly and
honestly  regarding their own  reflexive  relationships---
both during and after them.

     Rather  than  reflecting  openly  and  honestly  upon
reflexive relationships compulsively objective people may:

     1.  Engage    in   rationalization   which    entails
dishonesty---in an effort to make their reflexive behavior
appear "reasonable" or "logical".

     2.  Repress memories of their reflexive  behaviors---
in an effort to make it appear that they have not violated
their commitment to constant objectivity.

     3.  Blame other people for the unacceptable reflexive
behaviors.   The  other people  may be viewed evil,   more
powerful, unreasonable, deceptive, etc.  In any case blame
is projected away from self.

     4.  Engage in self-criticism and  self-judgementalism
in an effort to compensate for the unacceptable  reflexive
behaviors; to even up the "score."

     5.  Make  a  nose-dive in self-esteem;  blaming  self
without   restraint  and  without  any  attempt  at  self-
justification.

     Such  attempts to guide all aspects of life in  terms
of compulsive concerns  with  objectivity  usually  end up
generating  many  tragic  consequences  which  cannot   be
understood  or  avoided using the objective paradigm as  a
guide.

     In  contrast to compulsively objective people---other
more  integrative people reflect openly and honestly  upon
their reflexive behaviors,  name them, describe them,  and
talk  about them with intimate associates.   They make  an
effort   to   develop  an  integrated   understanding   of
themselves,   each other,   their  communities;  and their
defining  ideals,  values,  visions,  goals,  dreams,  and
hopes.
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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