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     %PREFER BEST FIRST TOP PREMIER CHOICE ACCEPTED+960108
  %GOD'S CHOSEN FEW SELECT EXCLUSIVE ANOINTED NAMED+960108
 %INSECURE DEFENSIVE MANIPULATIVE COERCIVE VIOLENCE 960108

     Many  insecure people are preoccupied with  questions
of best  choice,   being  first,   being  on  top,   being
preferentially  accepted into the select few,  being God's
chosen people,  being exclusive,  being named and anointed
as  among  the best people,  etc.   Such  people  find  it
impossible to focus attention upon transcendent ideals and
values  which  help people to find their highest  possible
grounds  for: cooperation,  conflict-resolution,  and  the
promotion of personal and communal integrity.   They focus
instead  upon  their chosen grounds for  being  themselves
best, on top, anointed, manipulative, coercive, exclusive,
violent, destructive, judgmental, condemners, etc.    They
promote  personal  and  communal  disintegration.    Their
preoccupations are not worthy of respect or support.  They
need to accept the assistance of different kinds of people
in transcending their preoccupations.   Their own kinds of
people   cannot   help  them  to   transcend   their   own
preoccupations; but then their own kinds of people are the
only kinds of people whom they feel that they can trust.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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