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              %STRATEGIES PROMOTE SUCCESSFUL CHANGE 951216

     There are many and varied strategies for successfully
promoting integrative change---including focusing your own
attention upon:

1.  What you can most easily change in your own behaviors.

2.  Incremental, gradual, intentional, coherent change.

3.  Avoiding unnecessarily arousing others' opposition.

4.  Long-term persistence in desirable directions.

5.  Inviting others to join in your own efforts to change.

6.  Seeking,   but  not  demanding  specific  patterns  of
change.

7.  Understanding and respecting others' hesitancy.

8.  Listening carefully to opponents to change.

9.  Articulating integrative ideals, values & principles.

10.  Describing your own experiences regarding change.

11.  Sympathizing with others experiences of change.

12.  The direction of change, rather than the speed of it.

13.  The   necessary  intermediate  transition  steps   to
change.

14.  Learning from mistakes, fumbles, and tragedies.

15.  Seeking,   promoting  &  facilitating  openness   and
honesty.

16.  Seeking, promoting & facilitating personal integrity.

17.  Seeking, promoting & facilitating communal integrity.

18.  Changing your own patterns of questions asked.

19.  Changing your own patterns of attitudes and thoughts.

20.  Changing your own daily behavior patterns and habits.

21.  Changing   your   own  operational  assumptions   and
beliefs.

22.  Examining   your   assumptions   in  the   light   of
experiences.

23.  Coherent patterns of incremental change.

24.  Describing your own experiences for self and others.

25.  Tracing   the  roots  of  mistakes,   fumbles,    and
tragedies.

26.  Being   gentle,    kind,    non-coercive   and   non-
manipulative.

27.  Yourself     being    coherent,     integrative     &
understandable.

28.  Avoiding unnecessary threats to others' security.

29.  Avoiding unnecessary violence and conflict.

30.  Resolving conflict in "win-win" ways helpful to many.

31.  Seeking to GET TO YES in all conflict resolution.

32.  Seeking to understand the root causes of frustration.

33.  Seeking   to   understand  the  roots  of   anger   &
resentment.

34.  Not surprising people in ways which they will resent.

35.  Being   more  than  just  a  spectator  of  what   is
happening.

36.  Seek not to destroy, but to transcend evil paradigms.

37.  Seek to transcend prescriptions and prohibitions.

38.  Seek    to   transcend   anger,    resentments    and
frustrations.

39.  Seek    to    change   dysfunctional   patterns    of
logic/thought.
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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