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     %DYSFUNCTIONAL DUTY SUFFER VICTIMS HELP RESCUE 951105

     If  we  are  not careful we are  likely  to  identify
ourselves   too   closely  with  victims  of   their   own
dysfunctional patterns of behaviors  (whom  we   seek   to
rescue)---and   become dysfunctional ourselves, and so not
be  able  to assist them in their recovery from their  own
dysfunctional patterns of perceptions and behaviors.

     We  may fall into the trap of feeling that it is  our
duty  to  suffer  equally with  victims  of  dysfunctional
patterns  of  perceptions and behaviors.   It is  hard  to
suffer  equally  with  them, without becoming  like  them;
dysfunctional.   Thus we may fall into the trap of feeling
that  it  is our duty to be  dysfunctional  ourselves---in
order  to empathize fully with the victims whom we feel it
is our duty to rescue.

     We  may feel that it is immoral for us to  enjoy  the
fruits of functional patterns of perceptions,   attitudes,
beliefs,  values and ideals---when there are others who do
not enjoy the fruits of functional patterns.   Thus we may
feel  it is our duty to become and/or remain dysfunctional
to  help  us be qualified to rescue dysfunctional  people.
How can we  presume to rescue people who are fundamentally
different  from  us;   dysfunctional, when  we  are  fully
functional?
                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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