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  %INFLUENCE VERSUS CONTROL THEORY INFORMATION KNOW 950815

     We  need  to  be clear about the  difference  between
being influential, and being in control.

     We may try to be in control, and so be influential in
ways  which we will later regret---if we are honest  about
how we have influenced other people.

     We  may  try to be in control of certain  aspects  of
other people,  and so influence them to be and  do in ways
contrary to our best interest---because we were:

     1.  Arrogant, presumptuous, rude, violent, etc.

     2.  Uninformed,    misinformed  and/or  confused   in
regards to those whom we sought to control.

     3.  Operating  in  terms  of a misleading  theory  of
cause  and  effect,  in regards to the processes  we  were
trying to control.

     4.  Operating    in   terms   of    misleading    and
disintegrative   assumptions,    perceptions,     beliefs,
convictions, ideals and values.

     5.  Unwilling  to acknowledge that we were trying  to
control what we cannot control.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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