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%FORCE MAKE DESIRE CHOOSE VULNERABILITY LOVE SECURE 950527

     Vulnerability  is  dangerous in the absence  of  true
love, but not in the presence of true love.

     In  the presence of true love we may prudently choose
to  be vulnerable,  and we will not choose to force others
to be vulnerable.

     In  the  presence of true love we are free  to  enjoy
security  as the freedom to be safely vulnerable;  and  we
will   not   seek  to  achieve  security   envisioned   as
invulnerability.

     People who are forced to be vulnerable in the absence
of   true  love---are  likely  to be  violently  defensive
in    efforts   to   achieve   security   envisioned    as
invulnerability.

     In the absence of true love we cannot enjoy  security
envisioned  as invulnerability---because the enjoyment  of
invulnerability  is  a reflexive reality which  we  cannot
achieve  objectively.    Achievements are reflexive,   not
objective.    Achievements pertain to our reflexive  goals
from  which  we  are not detached.    What we  do  in  the
absence of goals may  be  objective accidents,  but cannot
meaningful  achievements.    Behaviors from which  we  are
detached  are  not  meaningful  to  us.     If  we  detach
ourselves   from our behaviors,  they are not   meaningful
to us.

   Security which we seek to achieve through the objective
achievement   of  invulnerability  via    manipulations---
cannot  be meaningful to us for the above reasons.    Thus
objective defenses cannot be the means to the enjoyment of
security.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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