This is http://www.essayz.com/a9504152.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %DOMINATED FEAR DEFENSIVE INSECURE DICHOTOMY SIN+950415 %ATTITUDE THOUGHT PATTERN FRIEND ENEMY SHARP JUDGE+950415 %BOUNDARY GOOD EVIL CONDEMNATION EXCOMMUNICATION 950415 People who are dominated by their fears are defensive, put others on the defensive, and so are insecure. Fear, defensiveness and insecurity engender dichotomous attitudes and thought patterns---so people are preoccupied with whether others are friend or enemy, good or evil, saints or devils. In such circumstances it is important to have clear and sharply defined grounds for making judgements, deciding who to condemn and whom to alienate trough excommunications. It is risky to permit there to be fuzzy boundaries. Boundaries must be sharply defined and beyond ambiguity. Doubt is not to be permitted. People who are dominated by fear cannot trust people who are NOT defensive: secure, open, honest, non- dichotomous, friendly, non-judgmental, reconcilers, peacemakers and comfortable with fuzzy boundaries. Such behaviors do not make sense, and are signs of irrational thinking which cannot be understood or controlled. People who are dominated by their fears cannot be at peace with themselves or others, and cannot trust people whose love might drive out their fears. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================