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   %TRAPPED ADDICTIVE COLLUSIVE CODEPENDENT CONTROL+950409
     %FEAR CANNOT MANAGE MYSTERIOUS HOLY SPIRIT GOD 950409

     If  we  are trapped in the life style  of  addictive,
collusive  and/or codependent living we are likely  to  be
threatened  by,   fearful of, or terrified by  any reality
which  we encounter which we cannot control---for  control
is apparently essential to our salvation of our selves.

     The  difficulty  of  the  life  style  of  addictive,
collusive and/or codependent people is that there are very
few realities which people can control; e.g.  the position
and orientation of an inanimate object,  which object hits
which  other object,  and the destruction of modest  sized
objects.

     The really important realities which we encounter are
reflexive realities,  and  we  cannot control them;  e.g.,
friends,   lovers,  family members,  relatives,  teachers,
professors,  employers,  politicians,  religious  leaders,
spirits,  the Holy Spirit,  God.   Addicts,  colluders and
codependent servants  of them are bound to be terrified by
encounters with  such uncontrollable reflexive  realities;
and may deny their reality,  ignore them,  pretend they do
not exist, pretend to be in control---or in some other way
engage  in  dishonest  responses to the  really  important
realities of their lives.    Such  a  life style  leads to
perpetual tragedies, not to salvation.

                                                                                                                               
                         (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in      
                    (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)  
                                                                                                                               
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